Dave Pelzer

Pelzer was born in San Francisco, California on December 29, 1960, and was the second of five boys. He grew up in Daly City, California.[4] He is the son of Catherine Roerva Christen Pelzer (1929–1992) and San Francisco fireman Stephen Joseph Pelzer (1923–1980). Pelzer's books describe the abuse he suffered for several years of his childhood, including continual mistreatment and beatings by his mother, who he said thought of it as a game. His teachers stepped in on March 5, 1973, when 12-year-old Pelzer was placed in foster care. At age 18, in 1979, he joined the U.S. Air Force and served in the Gulf War.[5][6] In the 1980s, Pelzer married his first wife, Patsy (a pseudonym), with whom he had a son. In 1996, he carried a torch in the 1996 Summer Olympics torch relay.[7] Pelzer and Patsy divorced, and many years later, he married his second wife, Marsha Donohoe, who was his editor.[8]

Pelzer's book A Child Called "It" describes from his viewpoint the severe abuse he suffered as a child. He writes how his mother was physically and emotionally abusive towards him from ages 4 to 12. He describes how his mom starved him, forced him to drink ammonia, stabbed him in the stomach, burned his arm on a gas stove, and forced him to eat his own vomit. He mentioned that his father was not active in resolving or stopping the conflicts between Pelzer and his alcoholic mother. He was sent to a foster family at age 12 in 1973. His second book The Lost Boy covers the time frame when he was in foster care. In his books, he refers to his relatives by pseudonyms. By the time Pelzer was taken out of the home, he had already suffered a great deal mentally. This caused Pelzer to act out growing up.[9] Although the main abuse had stopped, he faced continued mental anguish. Throughout his teen years, he struggled to feel loved. Being in a foster home and having suffered abuse caused him to yearn for the family and love he could not have.[10] He later forgave his father for ignoring the abuse, and wrote a letter to his mom saying he loved her as his mother, but would never see her again. She died before he could send it.[11] Throughout the rest of his life, he somewhat healed from the abuse but will never forget what he had been through. He now has written self help books to help others overcome their challenges and abuse they have suffered.

One of Pelzer's brothers, Richard B. Pelzer, published his own autobiography, A Brother's Journey, that detailed his experiences. Paraphrased, R. Pelzer said in the afterword of his book that his objectives for his story was to show how a parent can become abusive and how the human spirit can triumph and survive.[12]

Pelzer's first book, A Child Called "It", was published in 1995 and describes the abuse Pelzer suffered in his childhood. His second book, The Lost Boy: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family was published shortly after in 1997. The book covered Pelzer's teen years. The third book in his series, A Man Named Dave: A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness[13] was about Pelzer's experiences as an adult and how he forgave his father. In 2001 he wrote Help Yourself: Finding Hope, Courage, And Happiness which was a self-help book. When discussing his seventh book Moving Forward he said, "My message has always been about resilience".[14]

• A Child Called "It" – Pelzer's first book, it tells his story and describes the abuse he suffered from ages 0–12. Pelzer was physically and mentally abused by his mother. This book goes into detail of all different kind of abuse he suffered, including beatings, starvation, manipulation games, and even being stabbed. Eventually the book ends with Pelzer escaping his nightmare and being placed into foster care.[15]

• The Lost Boy – Pelzer's second book and a continuation of his first book, A Child Called "It". This book was released in 1997 and covers the time period in Pelzer's life when he was in foster care. During this book Pelzer faces great emotional turmoil. He had gone to court and described what his mother had done, ending up with him in the foster care system. Pelzer wondered if the abuse he endured was his fault. While in his first foster home, Pelzer acted out frequently and had a stealing problem. He would still see his mother, who would visit and promise to get him back, but he eventually ended up going through foster families, getting in more trouble, and finally getting sent to a juvenile hall. After Pelzer got out of foster care, he enlisted in the Air Force. The book ends with Pelzer having learned how to treat others and be a better person.[16]

• A Man Named David – This book is the third in the A Child Called "It" series. This book takes place when Pelzer is an adult. It describes him becoming the person he is now, and how he handles what had happened in the past. He tries to find answers and ways to heal in this book, as well as trying to find closure with his biological mom and dad.[17]

In 2002, Pat Jordan wrote a disputed article in The New York Times Magazine that questioned the reliability of Pelzer's recollections. He said that "Pelzer has an exquisite recall of his abuse, but almost no recall of anything that would authenticate that abuse", such as any details about his mother.[2] Pelzer's younger brother, Stephen Pelzer, has disputed his book, denying that any abuse took place, and stating that he thinks Pelzer was placed in foster care because "he started a fire and was caught shoplifting", and goes on to accuse Pelzer of having been discharged from the US Air Force on psychological grounds.[2] However, another brother, Richard Pelzer, is author of the book A Brother's Journey, which affirms much of what Dave has said and describes his own abuse when Dave was finally removed from the home. In regard to Stephen's comments, Dave Pelzer has said that Stephen is "semi-retarded, he has Bell's palsy. He worshipped my mum. He misses her terribly because she protected him."[8] Furthermore, he has documented proof that – contrary to Stephen's accusations – he was honorably discharged from the US Air Force.[2] Due to the criticism from The New York Times Magazine article, Pelzer does not give interviews often.[8]

In an article in The Boston Globe, Pelzer's maternal grandmother said she believed Pelzer had been abused but not as severely as he described. She also said she did not believe his brother Richard was abused. It was revealed, however, that Pelzer's grandmother did not live in the same state as his family and was not in contact with them at the time of the abuse.[24]

In a review for The Guardian, Geraldine Bedell notes that gaps in the background narrative "makes the foreground harder to trust", but believes that "substantially, [Pelzer]'s telling the truth ... But there is a definite feeling of exaggeration in the later two books...".[19] More than any concern about the veracity of all the minutia in the novel, she was bothered by the trend of authors even writing about their abusive childhoods, grouping Pelzer with Andrea Ashworth, Jennifer Lauck, Martin Amis and Tony Thornton as authors who she feels are merely profiting from their abuse by writing in an entertaining style – though she does mention examples of "national and local agencies working with sexual-abuse survivors" appreciating the honest portrayal of what happens in these situations.[19]

Pelzer does community work and has given lectures across the country.[8][25] As a motivational speaker he speaks to high school students and adults about the concept of resilience.[26]

• A Child Called "It" (1995)
• The Lost Boy: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family (1997)
• A Man Named Dave: A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness (2000)
• Help Yourself (2000)
• The Privilege of Youth (2004)
• Help Yourself for Teens (2005)
• Moving Forward (2009)

• Richard B. Pelzer

• Official website
• Dave Pelzer top selling list
• An interview with Dave Pelzer