Antonia Pilars de Pilar

Antonia was born as the only daughter of Friedrich Edmund Anton Freiherr von Oer-Egelborg (1842–1896), chamberlain of Prince Karl II of Isenburg, and his Austrian wife, Countess Gabriele Khuen von Belasi (1841–1923).

Antonia was born in Birstein, where she grew up at the court of the Prince of Isenburg where her father was chamberlain. In 1894 she became lady in waiting to Duchess Marie von Mecklenburg-Schwerin, née princess of Windisch-Graetz and wife of the Duke Paul Frederick of Mecklenburg. At 9. of May 1898 she married in Birstein Ladislaus Baron Pilars de Pilar, a Polish poet from Opatówek. They moved to Struga, at that time a small suburb of Warsaw. Ladislaus was running there a factory for safes and armour plates. In 1906 some Polish insurgents burned down his house and his fabric. So Antonia flew with a nanny and her three children hidden in a hay waggon to her relatives close to Münster. Her cousin, Paula Freifrau von Ketteler née von Oer was looking for a playfellow for her only child Wilderich. So she offered to Pilars family a nearby Castle Störmede, close the Ketteler's main Castle Schwarzenraben.

In 1911 she restarted her career as a lady in waiting of the duchess Marie's daughter, Duchess Marie Antoinette of Mecklenburg-Schwerin. During World War I Antonia and Antoinette were both serving at the Red Cross where she was given the Red Cross Medal of Prussia and several other medals of the house of Mecklenburg-Schwerin. After the war Antonia joined Antoinette travelling through Europe. As Antoinette died in 1944 in Bled in former Yugoslavia Antonia returned to Störmede, where she died aged 73.

Antonia married Polish poet, Baron Ladislaus Pilars de Pilar. They had 3 children: Eduard (1899–1971), Antoinette (1901–1989) and Gabriel (1904–1978). Her son Gabriel married in 1935 Anna, Countess von Stubenberg.

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