Emotional safety

In psychology, emotional safety refers to an emotional state achieved in attachment relationships wherein each individual is open and vulnerable. The concept is primarily used by couples' therapists to describe intimate relationships. When a relationship is emotionally safe, the partners trust each other and routinely give each other the benefit of the doubt in questionable situations. When emotional safety is lost, the partners are inclined to be distrustful, looking for possible hidden meanings and potential threats in each other's words and behaviors.

Not to be confused with psychological safety or emotional security.

Origins

The emotional safety model of couples therapy was developed by psychologist Don R. Catherall.[1] The model focuses on the two realms of "attachment" and "esteem", contending that each partner measures their safety by their perception of the other partner's feelings in these two realms. If each perceives the other partner to be securely attached and each holds the other high regard, they feel emotionally safe. But if one perceives threat in either realm, then he or she will lose emotional safety and may react. If he or she reacts in a negative fashion (usually by either attacking or distancing from the partner), then said reaction can constitute a threat to the other partner's emotional safety. If the other partner responds in a similarly negative fashion, a vicious cycle may begin in which each partner's reaction to a perceived threat creates a reciprocal threat to the other partner. Once caught in these cycles, partners have considerable difficulty re-achieving emotional safety.

Evidence

Research on couples has identified a sudden, abrupt shift in physiological functioning (the fight-or-flight response) that occurs when a partner suddenly perceives something amiss in the intimate relationship.[2] Proponents of the emotional safety model contend that these shifts are precipitated by a partner's perception of change in the other's affective tone regarding their emotional relationship (i.e. the partners' feelings about themselves, each other, and their relationship).

Theoretical foundation

The emotional safety model utilizes the affect theory of Silvan Tomkins to explain the ways in which partners influence each other through their affective tone.[3][4] Attachment is based on attachment relationships as identified by John Bowlby,[5][6] while esteem is based on Nathaniel Branden's work on self-esteem[7] and Donald Nathanson's work on shame.[8]

Implications

The emotional safety model differs from other models of couples' therapy in its emphasis on each partner's perception of the other's feelings regarding the emotional relationship. The model emphasizes that each partner has more influence on the other partner's state of emotional safety than on their own, which can lead to an impasse referred to as the "couple's conundrum"; i.e. the couple remains stuck because each partner needs to feel safe before they can make themselves vulnerable and take the appropriate steps to make the other partner feel safe.

References
  1. Catherall, Don R. (2007). Emotional Safety: viewing couples through the lens of affect. New York: Routledge. ISBN 978-0-415-95451-8.
  2. Gottman, John M. (1999). The Marriage Clinic: a scientifically-based marital therapy. New York: W. W. Norton. ISBN 0-393-70282-0.
  3. Tomkins, Silvan S. (2008). Affect, Imagery, Consciousness: The Complete Edition, Volumes III and Volume IV. New York: Springer Publishing. ISBN 978-082614404-1.
  4. Tomkins, Silvan S. (2008). Volume III, the negative effects: anger and fear. Volume IV, cognition: duplication and transformation of information. New York, NY: Springer. ISBN 978-082614406-5.
  5. Bowlby, John (1969). Attachment and Loss, Volume I: Attachment. New York: Basic Books. ISBN 0-465-09715-4.
  6. Bowlby, John (1973). Attachment and Loss, Volume II: Separation. New York: Basic Books. ISBN 0-1402-1870X.
  7. Branden, Nathaniel (1985). Honoring the Self: Self-esteem and Personal Transformation (Bantam ed.). New York: Bantam Books. ISBN 0-553-26814-7.
  8. Nathanson, Donald L. (1992). Shame and pride: affect, sex, and the birth of the self (1st ed.). New York: Norton. ISBN 0-393-03097-0.
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