Margot Heuman

Stolpersteine for the Heumann family in Bielefeld, October 2020

Detail from above image of Stolperstein for Margot Heuman

When Heumann was nine years old, her family moved again to Bielefeld and enrolled her in public school.[2] Her father worked for the Aid Association of German Jews.[3] A year later, she and her younger sister were expelled from school without warning. Their parents enrolled them in a Jewish school, where they had teachers who had been fired from schools by the Nazis.[2] As a child Heumann knew she was attracted to women.[1]

In 1942, most Jews in Bielefeld were deported to extermination camps, but the Heumanns were sent to Theresienstadt Ghetto in June of that year[3] or in 1943[1] because Carl Heumann worked for a Jewish organization. Children in Theresienstadt were placed in youth homes where they received better food and accommodations than others in the ghetto. Margot and her sister Lore were sent to separate homes.[3] Margot met an Austrian girl named Ditha Neumann[lower-alpha 2] in the youth home,[4] and the two slept together and were intimate but did not have sex. They kept their relationship secret.[3]

In May 1943[5] or 1944,[3][1] the Heumann family was transported to Auschwitz after Karl Heumann was caught stealing food.[1] Neumann and her aunt arrived a few days later. Heumann's parents did not attempt the selection for forced labor because her younger sister would not have been able to pass, but Neumann and her aunt did, and Heumann chose to follow Neumann.[3] The group of about 200 women who passed were transported by train from Auschwitz to Neuengamme concentration camp.[6] Heumann's father died at Auschwitz[1] while her mother and sister are believed to have been murdered at Auschwitz[7] or died at Stutthof concentration camp.[1] She did not see any of them again after leaving Auschwitz.[2]

The group of Jewish women, including Heumann and Neumann who were 16 years old at the time, were the first female prisoners to arrive in Neuengamme, where they were forced to build shelters for German civilians and clean up rubble.[3] The group was moved through three satellite camps of Neuengamme, including Dessauer Ufer from July to September 1944, Neugraben from September 1944 to February 1945, and Tiefstack from February to April 1945.[4] Heumann and Neumann slept together in a bed at the end of their group's barracks, which disturbed some others, but Neumann's aunt defended the couple on the grounds that they were still children.[3][8] Both Heumann and Neumann engaged in sexual barter with men while at Neuengamme, obtaining food which they then shared with each other.[9] At the beginning of April 1945, the Schutzstaffel shut down Neuengamme and the Jewish women were sent to Bergen-Belsen concentration camp.[3] Heumann walked the 100 kilometres (62 mi) from Neuengamme to Bergen-Belsen in two days with no shoes.[6]

Heumann was freed from Bergen-Belsen concentration camp on April 15, 1945, by British soldiers. She had typhus and weighed only 35 kilograms (77 lb) at a height of 1.67 metres (5.5 ft). She was hospitalized for two months,[3] after which the Swedish Red Cross[1] brought her to Sweden to recover[2] while Neumann stayed behind.[10] Heumann remained in Sweden,[3] where she lived with a schoolteacher and attended school.[1] In 1947[3] she moved to New York City at the urging of her maternal uncle who wanted to gather the family together;[1] she only intended to live in the United States for a year, but stayed because she was able to live as a lesbian.[3] Upon moving to the United States, she changed the spelling of her last name to "Heuman".[4] In New York she worked as a nanny and a waitress, also holding a job in a button factory. She began a romantic relationship with Lu Burke, who later became a New Yorker copyeditor; the two lived together in the West Village.[1] In the early 1950s, the two were sometimes seen visiting lesbian bars in Greenwich Village together,[3] and Burke read the dictionary with Heuman to help her improve her English.[1]

Heuman attended the City College of New York, and in the early 1950s entered a job at Doyle Dane Bernbach. She continued working for the advertising firm until her retirement.[1] In 1953 she broke up with Burke because she wanted to have children,[3] feeling it was an obligation to her parents,[1] and knew she would need to marry a man to do so.[3] She married accountant Charles Mendelson in 1952 and had two children,[1] whom she did not raise religious.[6] Eventually she reentered her career in advertising after hiring a black housekeeper, while also having an affair with a married woman who lived next door.[3]

In the 1970s, Heuman's husband was addicted to gambling and began abusing her, so she left him[3] through a divorce in 1976. Later, at the age of 88, Heuman moved to the Southwestern United States and came out to her family as a lesbian; her coming out did not surprise them.[3]

Heuman suffered from severe depression and went to a psychiatrist for years after the Holocaust.[6] In 2018, historian Anna Hájková visited her home and conducted an interview in which Heuman described her relationship with Neumann as a romantic one.[1][lower-alpha 3] She visited the Neuengamme Concentration Camp Memorial in 2019, where she was interviewed by schoolchildren.[11] As of May 2020, she was 92 years old and living in Green Valley in the Arizona desert with her dog.[6] She died at age 94 on May 11, 2022,[11] in a Green Valley hospital.[1]