How to Meet a Girl on a Vacation

Sharpen up your social skills in the months prior. You will have the highest chances of success dating on vacation if you plan for it well in advance. Look up the customs and social norms of the culture you're visiting, and work on your charm.

Although a lot of this is easier said than done, it can be accomplished with the right degree of self-awareness. Go out and be social in your own area first; don't wait for a vacation to turn on the charm.

Don't throw money at so-called pickup artists. Although some of the basic information may be helpful, it's seldom worth the exorbitant rates many of the coaches charge for their services.

Dress appropriately.^[6] Looking good is an important part of meeting and attracting women no matter where you are. Although your dress should be relatively casual and applicable to the vacation setting, you should emphasize appearance over pure comfort.^[7]

• A collared shirt and dress shoes work well for the majority of cases.

Stay busy. No matter what, stay busy during your vacation. Although some people take a vacation as an opportunity to laze about, you'll only have a realistic chance of meeting new people when you're out actively doing things.

Check the weekly schedule for the resort you're staying at. Read up on the events that are happening nearby. If your resort has a bar or club, check it out and see what's going on. Just about any event will provide an opportunity to meet women, so you should take up any opportunity when it presents itself.

Check out party events in the area.^[8] Parties entail a high-energy environment that's perfect for meeting single women.

Meeting women during the day increases your chances as opposed to the night. Because people will be relaxing throughout the day while on vacation, you'll have more time to spend with a girl than if you were saving your advances purely for the night. Most guys will only approach at night, which also has the effect of increasing your competition.^[9]

Act friendly. Above all, it doesn't hurt your chances to be sincerely friendly towards people while you're out on vacation. You should be honest and authentic. Even if a prospect doesn't share your postal code, she'll most likely be able to tell if you're being disingenuous towards her.

• This includes lots of smiling. Just make sure not to stare at one girl for too long. This runs the risk of being interpreted as creepiness.

Carry something to share with others.^[10] If you carry something as simple as a pack of smokes or playing cards, you'll have a physical proper conversations with.

For instance, if you have a decent grasp of magic tricks using playing cards, you can approach a group of girls and ask if they would like to see a trick. Some girls may even approach you for a cigarette if they see you smoking.

Sunscreen is also handy, as most vacationers will be in want of it if they're spending much time on the beach.

Keep the conversation light-hearted.^[11] Even if you're looking to make a serious romance with the girl you're talking with, you shouldn't touch upon any serious topics when you're first chatting with her. Keep the conversation light and fun.

• If in doubt, ask questions about her. Ask her where she's from, who's she on vacation with, and what sort of things she's seen since she got here. All of these questions can lead to positive conversations.^[12]

Invite her to do something with you. You shouldn't wait long into a conversation before asking the girl to do something fun with you. If you're out on vacation, there should be a wide range of activities available to you. Whether it's swimming, hiking, partying, or seeing a show, you should keep the activities on-the-go and exciting.

• When one activity ends, start up another. This will show the girl that you are fun and spontaneous.

Take advantage of a vacation's excitement.^[13] Unlike a romance closer to home, there's a much greater degree of excitement when you're out on vacation. If you're looking to meet a woman abroad, you should take advantage of this excitement.

This is especially true if the woman is out vacationing herself. While you interact with her, don't hesitate or be afraid of potentially making a fool of yourself. Because you may only know this girl for a short amount of time, there are far fewer repercussions than if you were approaching someone domestically.

Share good experiences together.^[14] A vacation is meant to be a time where you get out and do things you're not familiar with. You can just as easily share these things with someone you just recently met.

Whether it's going to a resort club, taking a long swim or watching a tropical sunset together, the girl will associate positive feelings with you as she shares worthwhile experiences with you.

Look for signs of attraction.^[15] As with any interaction with a woman you're interested in, you can gauge the likelihood of your success by looking at signs of attraction. Here are some of the things you should keep an eye out for if you're trying to figure out if she's interested:

• If she's messaging you frequently throughout the vacation, it's a good sign that she's interested in seeing more of you.
• She's likely interested in pursuing things with you if she singles you out in a crowd, or spends more time with you than the party she originally came on vacation with.
• Typical body language signs of attraction, like twirling hair and sustained eye contact, should also be taken into account, although you should consider potential differences in culture. Women from certain cultures will manifest their attraction in more subtle ways than what you're used to dealing with.
• If she brushes your elbow, puts her hand on your back, or leans into you when you’re sitting together, it’s a major sign she’s into you.^[16]

Act quickly.^[17] Vacations don't last long, so your window of opportunity will almost always be accordingly brief. Although you shouldn't jump in the second you meet a girl, you shouldn't wait to make your feelings and intentions known to her. If you feel you've arrived at an appropriate time, jump on the chance and see what happens.

• If it turns out that the girl isn't interested in you, you shouldn't take it to heart. Vacation romances seldom work out as it is, and any pain you feel will be lessened by the time you get back home.

Practice safety first.^[18] Vacationers who meet other singles are more likely to practice unsafe sexual practices than if they were back at home.

Although part of this is the impression that someone won't be judged if she's away from the people she knows, it's still paramount that you approach any potential sexual encounter with safety in mind. Failing to do so could result in sexually transmitted diseases or even pregnancy.

Decide what you want. After you and a certain girl have spent enough time together, there will come a point where you should figure out what it is you want from the connection.

Are you content with a short-term interaction, or do you think there's the potential for something greater? If you're unsure, you might bring this subject up with the girl in question. Finding out what her thoughts are may give you some clarity.

Look up the girl online.^[19] Looking up the girl's name on social media will give you a glimpse into her regular life.

This is helpful if you want to stay in touch, and particularly important if you think she may be leading you on. Many people will show their relationship statuses online. This way, you can see if a girl is truly as available as she says she is.

Likewise, you should expect a girl to look you up online as well. This means you should avoid trying to start romance if you are already in a committed relationship with someone back home.

Be realistic.^[20] Romances while out on vacation can be a lot of fun, but the truth is that the vast majority of them do not last for very long.

This is important to keep in mind going into the romance itself, as you shouldn't set yourself up for heartbreak towards the end. If anything, you should enjoy a romance for the short time it lasts. If the chemistry is really strong enough however, the two of you may want to take it further.

Make plans to stay in touch. If the chemistry between the two of you is potent enough, you should try to keep a connection between the two of you, even if there's a major distance. Some lifelong romances have occurred in spite of originally living continents apart.

Ask for her number or email information and take it from there. If the two of you manage to foster a longer-lasting correspondence, you may decide to meet up again later on down the road.

Accept the potential for rejection. Like any romantic encounter, there is absolutely nothing to promise that the other person will feel the same way as you do. This is possibly especially true in a vacation setting, where a more prudent woman will recognize the folly of falling in love on vacation.

No matter how bad it hurts at first, accept it gracefully and go back to enjoying your vacation. Don't let a rejection get in the way of the rest of your experience. It's quite possible that you'll meet another woman on the same trip and thing will turn out for the better.