Are You Best Friends?
Acquaintance. Friend. Bestie. When you’re friendly with someone, it’s totally valid and natural to want to put a label on your relationship. But just how close are you and your friend in question?
Hit “Start Quiz” to take a good look at where you and your friend stand—and what you can do to become even closer.
Questions Overview
- I call them immediately after it happens.
- I’ll shoot them a text the next morning.
- I’ll tell them about it next time I see them.
- They’ll find out when I change my relationship status online.
- Absolutely! I feel like the most authentic version of myself when I’m with them.
- Usually. It’s not that hard to keep it real with them.
- Sometimes. I don’t always feel like I can be myself around them, though.
- Not really. I put on a polite, overly friendly front when I’m around them.
- Every day! I just got a text from them, actually.
- Several times a week—we don’t talk every day.
- Occasionally. We don’t talk all that much.
- Rarely. We’ll sometimes interact on social media.
- Bold of you to assume they don’t know already.
- For sure! I know I can trust them.
- I might, but I’m not completely sure.
- Probably not. We’re not super close, y’know?
- “Ooh, which one?! Tell me all about it!”
- “I can relate. I’ve definitely done that before!”
- “Oof. Hope you're able to catch up on sleep.”
- “Oh, that's cool. Anyway, I'm thinking of throwing a party next weekend.”
- We spend equal amounts of time talking and listening.
- Sometimes one of us talks a little bit more than the other.
- One of us definitely tends to take over the conversation.
- Our convos are hardly ever balanced.
- They’re practically a part of my family at this point.
- They get along great!
- They don’t know each other that well.
- They don’t know each other at all.
- Absolutely! They’re always my shoulder to cry on.
- Yeah, but I don’t cry around them super often.
- Not really—we aren’t that close.
- I don’t hang out with them enough to cry around them.
- They give me a huge hug and take me out to dinner.
- They send me a long text expressing how proud they are.
- They shoot me a quick “Congratulations!” text.
- They like the announcement post I make on social media.
- We talk it out! There are no secrets between us.
- We might vent about it to another friend before talking things out.
- We give vague apologies and consider things settled.
- We don’t spend enough time together to get into fights.
- “That’s totally fine! What would you like to do instead?”
- “Oh, dang. Would you be interested in going next week?”
- “Do you mind if I go anyways? It’ll be a lot of fun!”
- “I’m still gonna go out. I’ll see you around!”
- Nope! They arrive right on time.
- They’re 10 minutes late, but they have a good excuse.
- They sometimes cancel at the last minute.
- I’m not sure—we don’t hang out enough for me to say.
- I feel like I get a boost in how I feel about myself when I'm around them.
- I feel fine about myself when I'm around them.
- I sometimes feel slightly worse about myself when I'm around them.
- I feel like my self-esteem is a lot lower when I'm around them.
- I feel very excited to be around them.
- I feel very content and relaxed.
- I feel neutral.
- I feel down when I’m around them.
- Very much so.
- For the most part.
- Somewhat, but not completely.
- Absolutely not.
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The ABCs of Friendship
Whether you’re friendly acquaintances or besties, what matters most is having a relationship rooted in support, love, and respect. The healthier your friendship is, the closer and more long-lasting your relationship will be for years to come.
Signs of a Healthy Friendship
- You feel uplifted when you’re around them. Whether it’s a sleepover, a casual hangout, or just a phone call, you feel happy and recharged whenever you spend any amount of time with them.
- You both spend equal amounts of time sharing and listening. Neither of you monopolizes the conversation—instead, you each take time to share, listen, and react to each other.
- You feel comfortable being yourself when you’re with them. You never feel like you have to change your interests, values, or personality when you spend time together.
- You respect and trust each other completely. You feel comfortable being vulnerable around each other, and you know that your secrets are safe with one another.
- You’re there for one another unconditionally. Your love and support for one another is unwavering, and you know you’ll always have each other’s back.
Friendship-Strengthening Tips
- Offer a listening ear when they’re struggling. Don’t automatically assume that your friend is looking for advice when they’re going through a rough time. Instead, take time to listen as they vent and share how they’re feeling. You can always offer advice later if they ask for it.
- Check in with them regularly. A quick text, call, or social media DM can help you stay plugged in and up-to-date with your friend’s life. Even if your chat isn’t super long, a quick “How are you?” or “Any big plans for the week?” can go a long way.
- Share how much you care about them. Whenever the moment feels right, say something like: “I’m so grateful to have you as a friend. You bring so much joy and happiness to my life, and I always love spending time with you.”
- Ask what you can do to help if they’re going through a tough time. Don’t worry about saying the “right” thing when your friend is struggling. Instead, just ask “How can I help?” or “Is there anything I can do?” Even if your friend doesn’t need help, they’ll be grateful for the offer of support.
- Be honest but nonjudgmental. A true friend isn’t afraid to tell it like it is—but not at the expense of the other person’s feelings. If you disagree with a friend’s idea or decision, let them know politely, tactfully, and respectfully.
Want to learn more?
Developing strong friendships is a simple and invaluable way to make your life happier and more fulfilling. Check out these expert-verified sources for plenty of tips on how you can keep your friendships vibrant:
- https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/making-good-friends.htm
- https://portal.ct.gov/AdvocatesCorner/Life-Tips/Your-Choices/Healthy-Friendships-and-Relationships
- https://au.reachout.com/articles/what-makes-a-good-friend
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201212/10-ways-be-best-friend