1997, Steven Shaviro, Doom Patrols: A Theoretical Fiction About Postmodernism, London: Serpent's Tail, →ISBN, LCCN9668813, page 138:
I may become quite intimate with someone, spend hours with em every night, and yet not have the slightest idea what eir voice sounds like, or what eir RL body looks, feels, and smells like.