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Are you unsure how to create a solid familial bond with your mother-in-law? It's never too late to start! Whether you want to have a positive relationship from the beginning or you're working through difficulties, the two of you can absolutely get along. Read on for a complete guide to establishing trust, respect, and care between you and your mother-in-law.
Things You Should Know
- Be in a positive headspace before seeing your in-law and put your best foot forward. Common courtesy and politeness can win her over.
- Show genuine interest in her. Ask questions, seek her advice, compliment her, and offer help whenever possible.
- Set boundaries with your spouse's help. Compromise with your in-law where possible and respect her priorities, but always hold true to your values.
Steps
References
- ↑ https://www.cnn.com/2012/12/13/health/kerner-inlaws/index.html
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- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-give-a-powerful-compliment
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/improving-family-relationships-with-emotional-intelligence.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/dealing-with-difficult-family-relationships.htm
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- ↑ https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-navigate-holidays-with-your-in-laws/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/dealing-with-difficult-family-relationships.htm
- ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950
- ↑ https://www.drjen.com/parents-vs-grandparents-how-to-find-balance/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/improving-family-relationships-with-emotional-intelligence.htm
About This Article
Getting along with your mother-in-law is important for maintaining family relationships, even if she can be difficult at times. Try to be positive and smile whenever you see your mother-in-law, even if you don't want to be there. That way, you'll start off each interaction on a good note. Make an effort to ask her how she’s doing and find out about her life to help her warm up to you. If you have a disagreement with your mother-in-law, listen to her point of view, even if you don’t agree with it, so she feels heard. Then, you can discuss it with your spouse and ask them to talk to their mother about it. It’ll be easier to come to a compromise if you include your spouse, since they knew you both best. For more tips from our co-author, including how to get along with your mother-in-law when you live together, read on!
