How to Have Manners at a Restaurant

Last Updated: December 1, 2020 References

Good manners are always important, and it's embarrassing if you're with someone in a restaurant and they behave inappropriately. Below are some ways that should help you.

Steps

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Turn off your cell phone. It's rude to talk, e-mail, or text when dining out with others.^{[1]
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Don't talk too loud. Don't yell across the table or across the room.If you see someone you know, walk up to their table to say hello.

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Chew with your mouth closed. No one wants to see your food inside your mouth. Also, if you get food around or on your mouth, don't use your tongue to lick it away. Use a napkin.
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Sit up straight and don't slouch.^{[2]
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Keep your elbows off the table. If you rest your wrists on the table with your hands crossed, this shows to others that you want to talk and have a conversation.^{[3]
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Drink in moderation. Dining out with other people is not the time and place to get drunk.^{[4]
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When ordering, ask questions about any dishes you don't understand. If something goes wrong with the dish you ordered, politely tell the waiter or waitress, and ask for the dish to be fixed or order another dish.^{[5]
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If you have children, remind them of their behavior and table manners before taking them out, and take them outside for a break so that they can settle down if they misbehave.^{[6]
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Community Q&A

Question

If someone burps and says, "Excuse me," is another person supposed to say, "You're excused"?

Community Answer

Yes.
Question

Is it considered bad manners to help a waitress pack up dirty dishes?

Community Answer

Of course not. In fact, you're making her job easier. She'll appreciate it.
Question

Is it bad manners to take food with you when eating at a restaurant family style?

Community Answer

Yes, it is generally poor etiquette to take carry-out from a buffet setting, and is often against restaurant policy.