Obsessive love

Although obsessive love is not contained in the DSM-5 as a specific mental disorder, it can often accompany other mental illnesses.[2] Depending on the intensity of their attraction, obsessive lovers may feel entirely unable to restrain themselves from extreme behaviors such as acts of violence toward themselves or others. Obsessive love can have its roots in childhood trauma and may begin at first sight; it may persist indefinitely, sometimes requiring psychotherapy.[3]

The disorder most commonly associated with obsessive love is borderline personality disorder. Other disorders that are most commonly associated with obsessive love include delusional disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and cluster B personality disorders.[4]

Sigmund Freud considered that obsessive love might be underpinned by an unconscious feeling of hate for which it overcompensated - thereby explaining the sufferer's feeling of a need to protect the love object.[5] Later analysts saw obsessive love as driven more by narcissistic need, the preoccupation with the love-object offering defences against worries and depressive feelings;[6] while Jungians see it as rooted in the projection of the inner self onto another person.[7]

Marcel Proust dissected (his own style of) obsessive love in À la recherche du temps perdu.[8]

Bollywood films such as Darr, Anjaam, and Dastak each portray the main villains as obsessive lovers. [9]

You, a 2014 thriller novel by Caroline Kepnes portrays obsessive love disorder. The novel was adapted into the first season of the Lifetime and Netflix television series You.

• Peabody, Susan (1995) [1989]. Addiction to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships (illustrated, reprint, revised ed.). Ten Speed Press. ISBN 9780890877159.
• Moore, John (2006) [2010]. Confusing Love with Obsession: When Being in Love Means Being in Control (illustrated, reprint, revised ed.). Hazelden Books. ISBN 978-1592853564.