Signs an Aquarius Man is in Love with You, Plus Compatibility Tips

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Glenn Carreau

Last Updated: March 17, 2023

Relationships with an Aquarius guy are always fun and full of adventure, but sometimes it’s tough to know where you stand with him. If you’re wondering how to tell that he’s in love with you, you’ve come to the right place! Even if he doesn’t openly say so, his behavior will change drastically when he’s in love. Read on for a list of surefire signs that an Aquarius man has fallen for you, plus advice on how to reciprocate, compatibility tips, and the reasons why Aquarius guys sometimes act distant when they’re in love.

Things You Should Know

Aquarius guys in love are much more open and involved in your life. They’re curious, flirty, and want to share exciting new experiences with you.
An Aquarius man in love will tell you everything about himself, including his wildest and most innovative ideas. He’ll also express his feelings through romantic gestures.
Some Aquarius guys pull away even when in love, but it's just because they need independence. Show him you’re also free-spirited and adventurous to win his heart.

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Signs of an Aquarius Man in Love

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He involves you in his life and wants to spend time with you. While an Aquarius tend to value his “alone” time, that’ll start to change when he falls in love. He’ll go out of his way to hang out with you, ask you to spend time with his close-knit inner circle of friends, and even invite you over to his home—which is significant because Aquarians are protective of their space. It means he’s invested in you!
- An Aquarius usually has a small group of close friends (rather than a large circle of casual ones). If he wants you to meet them, it’s because you’re an essential part of his life.
- Keep in mind that Aquarius guys are still independent by nature; if he ever does ask for a little alone time, let him have it. He’ll appreciate your understanding.
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He’s always happy to see you. While Aquarians are outgoing and love to meet new people, they can also get bored and move on quickly. If your Aquarius guy is over the moon every time he sees you and only seems to get more eager every time you’re together, he’s definitely falling for you. The deeper his feelings are, the more consistent he’ll be with his affection.
- As an air sign, Aquarius can be erratic and inconsistent—especially at the beginning of a relationship. When he starts spending time with you regularly, he’s falling for you.
- Try to match your Aquarius guy’s energy and show him you’re interested without overwhelming him. Stay upbeat, so he knows that he makes you happy, too.
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He’s curious about you and wants to know your opinions. When an Aquarius is in love with you, he’ll spend hours talking to you about anything and everything—from politics to music. You’ll notice that he asks you questions about yourself and your opinions on every topic you discuss because he wants to get to know you better.
- When he asks you questions, engage with the conversation. Be ready to talk about anything and express your ideas freely.
- Don’t push yourself to be anything you’re not. Just be honest and open, and let him see all of your most unique qualities. Aquarius loves individuality, so he’s sure to fall for you.
- Aquarius longs for intellectual stimulation, which is why the easiest way to his heart is deep conversation and open-minded exchanges of ideas.
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He shares more about himself and lets his guard down with you. An Aquarius guy transforms when he falls in love; he’ll likely keep things casual and aloof when you’re just a friend, but those barriers disappear when things get serious. He’ll let himself be vulnerable and tell you about his hopes, dreams, and wildest ideas because he trusts you with them wholeheartedly.^{[1]
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- Aquarius is ruled by Uranus, the planet of invention, which makes Aquarius an innovator and humanitarian. He wants to make the world a better place and share his progressive ideas with someone who can appreciate them.
- Don’t push him to reveal more than he’s ready for, or he might back off. Just listen and accept him for who he is; he’ll adore anyone who embraces his originality with an open mind.
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He doesn’t flirt with anyone but you. Although clever Aquarius guys enjoy swapping flirty, teasing wordplay with people, they’re also loyal. Once an Aquarius realizes he’s falling for you, he’ll start flirting to get your attention. You’ll notice that he isn’t flirty around other people, but he really steps up the flirty banter and teasing comments around you.
- Reciprocate if you catch him flirting! Aquarius’s intellectual air sign nature makes him much more receptive to playful banter than physical seduction (at first, anyway).
- Flirt with an Aquarius guy by gently teasing him about how much you like him, sending clever texts, and discussing mutual passions.
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He’s thoughtful and goes out of his way to make romantic gestures. If an Aquarius guy is in love, he’ll take action to show you how important you are to him, like picking up your coffee order before work or offering to dogsit while you’re out of town. He’ll also do little romantic things to make you feel special, like cooking your favorite dinner or getting you a small trinket because he’s thinking of you.
- Return the favor for your Aquarius and get him something he’ll enjoy. Aquarians like anything that stimulates them mentally, like books and tech gadgets. Alternatively, donate to a cause that’s important to him!
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He admits his feelings indirectly with compliments and sweet remarks. Aquarians don’t usually wear their emotions on their sleeve, but if he’s in love, he won’t want to hide them from you. It might take a while to say “I love you,” but he’ll show you how he feels by giving thoughtful, earnest compliments and telling you how much he values your company.
- Give him compliments, too. Aquarius guys take pride in their intellect and originality, so be sure to praise his creative ideas and problem-solving skills.
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He’s openly affectionate when you’re alone together. Aquarius guys shy away from PDA, but they’re incredibly loving in private. Take a look at his behavior when you’re hanging out one-on-one: is he always finding an excuse to touch you? Does he hug you all the time and smother you with kisses? That’s a sign he loves you.
- An Aquarius guy in love might eventually try a little PDA. He’s not the type to kiss you passionately in front of others, but he might start holding your hand more!
- If you feel the same, give him the intimacy he’s craving when you’re alone. Be physically affectionate and show him his love is reciprocated.
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He plans exciting adventures and getaways with you. Aquarius craves fun, exploration, and discovery—and he’ll want to share those experiences with the person he loves most! If he starts planning adventurous dates or asking you about whirlwind weekend getaways to places you’ve never been before, it’s a sign that he wants you to be in his life permanently.
- Take the initiative and surprise him with a few adventures of your own. Aquarius guys are drawn to mystery and spontaneity, and they like it when their partner invests as much energy into the relationship as they do.
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He directly expresses interest in a committed relationship. Aquarius is free-spirited, so he won’t want to be tied down until he’s sure he loves you. If your Aquarius guy starts talking about going steady and tells you how happy he is with your relationship, he’s finally settling into the idea of being attached. And when he does, he’ll want you to know just how serious he is.
- Aquarius is a fixed sign, meaning he’s dependable, loyal, and determined.
- While Aquarius might seem a little inconsistent at the beginning of a relationship, his dependability shows itself when he falls in love. Once he’s committed, your Aquarius will be with you for the long haul.

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Why do Aquarius guys pull away?

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Some Aquarius guys can get overwhelmed by your feelings. If he feels like he’s being pressured to spend more time with you or commit faster than he’s ready for, Aquarius might back off. Aquarians are loyal partners but still independent and need time to themselves. It takes time for Aquarius to get in touch with his feelings, so he might back off before realizing he cares about you too.
- If he seems distant, give him a little space and focus on being his friend first and foremost. Aquarius likes to blend love and friendships, so tell him that you value his friendship and let him set a pace he’s comfortable with.
- Pace yourself when it comes to calls and texts, too. Don’t message him more than once until you get a reply.
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He might not feel like his emotions are reciprocated. Aquarius might act distant after realizing he’s in love if he doesn’t think you feel the same. Aquarian guys want to know that you’re as serious about him as he is about you, so if you’re closed-off emotionally or physically distant, he might just assume he isn’t wanted.
- Don’t be afraid to make the first move. If you spot signs that your Aquarius is in love, take the initiative and tell him how you feel. Aquarius guys actually like being chased!
- Be clear about your attraction, too. An Aquarius tends to get lost in thought instead of actually doing things, so it’s important to step up and show him that you’re physically interested in him.

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Aquarius Compatibility

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Aquarius is most compatible with fellow air signs and fire signs. Libra and Gemini, the air signs, are highly intelligent and best suited for keeping up with Aquarius mentally. Leo, Sagittarius, and Aries (the fire signs) bring out Aquarius’s passionate side. Sagittarius also shares Aquarius’s independent spirit, and Leo is opposite Aquarius on the zodiac wheel—so sparks fly between them!^{[2]
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- Two Aquariuses are also compatible. They’re both driven by logic and a drive for social justice, and they’ll be able to appreciate (and support) one another’s bold ideas.
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An Aquarian is least compatible with water and earth signs. As water signs, Pisces, Cancer, and Scorpio are deeply emotional and sensitive, which can be a little exhausting for a logical Aquarius. And although earth signs Virgo, Capricorn, and Taurus are more down to earth, they also tend to have very traditional values—which often clashes with Aquarius, the visionary rebel of the zodiac.
- There’s still no need to worry if your Sun sign isn’t considered compatible with Aquarius. Astrology is about more than just Sun signs; if you compare your astrology charts, you’ll likely find a good match somewhere on it.
- Even if you don’t have many compatible signs, the most important part of any relationship is making an effort to understand and appreciate one another. So long as you do that, you’ll flourish as a couple!