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For girls who struggle with the Christian faith and how to incorporate it into a modern life, here is how you can blend them and still place God first in your life.
Steps
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1Pray every day. Start off with reading a couple of passages in the Bible. Then start praying. You should start by praising God and marking Him as authority. Then start thanking Him, and pray for yourself, and others. Pray consistently and with patience. Whisper a prayer in the morning, afternoon and evening. Arrow prayers can be integrated in the day. If you have trouble remembering whom you need to pray for, have a notebook and write down whom you must pray for. Promise that person that you'll pray for them and be sure to keep that promise. Pray with that person too, if they desire.
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2Send bible verses to friends and family. While this can make a nice difference in someone's day, if they aren't religious or have asked you not to include them you are disrespecting them, their wishes, and their beliefs, which is something a modern Christian girl should never do.Advertisement
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3Admit your faults. No one, even people who are born again in Christ, is perfect. When we evangelize to others, we must be prepared to be open about our sins. It should be done in a modest way and for the benefit of others who are in difficult situations.
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4Be trustworthy. When someone tells you something, don't spread it around. Promise that person that you'll keep it to yourself. However, if what that person told you is illegal or serious, such as that they suffer from an eating disorder, you need to tell an adult immediately. Pray to God for wisdom and guidance.
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5Be open to God. Do what God tells you to do just like Moses did. God knows what is best for us and even if we don't realize it now, we may later on. Use the bible for inspiration and pour your heart out to the Lord. Listen to Him. Ask for forgiveness.
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6Do what is right before God. If you know something is not right then be bold and don't give into it. It may not be easy. It can help to trust in other believers and to trust God Himself.
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7Forgive others. In the Lord's prayer and in the Bible, it teaches us to forgive. God always forgives us when we sin so we should forgive ourselves and others. It may not be easy, but unless you are thinking of forgiving someone currently hurting you, it is the right thing to do.
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8Don't judge others. Only God has the authority to judge others. If we judge others, we will also be judged ourselves.
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9Be wary of false teachings. You may run across people who tell you something and justify it with "it's in the Bible" when in reality it is not. Similarly, you may run across people who twist what is in the Bible for their own benefits or to hold against a certain group. Don't buy into what these people are saying!
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10Don't be a hypocrite. Don't say one thing and do something completely opposite. This will cause others as well as yourself to doubt your faith and God. Admit your past mistakes, try to lead a godly life and walk with Christ.
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11Get involved in church activities. It can be anything. There is always something going on at church, so get involved! If you are worried that it might affect your studies or job, then pray about it. If there is no way to fit it into your schedule, as long as you aren't shunning Him, God will understand.
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12Dress suitably. There is nothing wrong with being stylish. Just remember when you dress how others will perceive you and what they will think about you simply by the way you dress. Is your clothing pleasing to God? Remember that you have a testimony to keep and although being stylish sometimes can also be modest it is not always and we Christian ladies should always be aware of how we present ourselves for the Lord.
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13Help others. Babysit for someone, bake a cake for them, help someone with their groceries or shovel an elderly neighbour's walk. Try to help at least one person every day.
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14Set up prayer meetings or other Christian events. Invite friends, family, and members of your church to a prayer meeting or other Christian event. If you have time, try to schedule at least one per month.
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15Accept things gracefully. When a person is unpleasant to you don't make a big deal out of it. Don't sink to name calling or fist fights. Simply move on. If you are constantly being taunted by a classmate or coworker though, you should go to a teacher or your boss. They do not have the right to do this to you and getting help in making them stop is not ungraceful.
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16Don't show off or spend too much. Keep track of what you spend money on and then see if it is all really necessary. Start a budget and you will be amazed how much you can save! This money can go towards treats for yourself, others, and charities.
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17Be servant-hearted. Jesus calls us to be like this. We should treat others the way Jesus would and always be ready to help others.
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18Treat everyone equally. This is regardless of their background, nationality, sexuality, and religion. Everyone deserves to be treated equally, and as mentioned above, only God may judge.
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19Know that there is nothing wrong with being ambitious or intelligent. God blessed us with the gifts to develop our abilities. We should be use them in the right way. God has a plan for us all, he always knows what is best for us.
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20Have fun. It is good to have fun with other Christian brethren as long as the activities are wholesome and pleasing to the Lord. Remember to behave like a good Christian lady at all times.
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21Be an example to others. If you are struggling with a decision and praying for guidance doesn't help you, imagine what someone who looks up to you and you care for would think. Will this person be hurt if you do this? Would you want this person to do this? Try to be a leader and a good example for others.
Community Q&A
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QuestionHow does I dress and behave cool and sylish as a Christian?Community AnswerNowadays dressing trendy isn't easy for Christian girls, but it is possible. You should look for less revealing clothing. Modesty is really important. As for your behavior, you can still have fun and be cool, but without being vulgar or following trends like smoking or drinking. You should put others before yourself.
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QuestionCan a Christian girl date?Community AnswerYes, usually after they're sixteen, but some girls make an exception to this rule.
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QuestionHow can I find the inspiration to wait until marriage?Community AnswerThink about it this way: If you don't wait, and you break up, you might be crushed. But once you are married, your first experience may be more meaningful because you know you are with the person who really loves you.
Warnings
- Christ told us we would have to suffer for Him, but don't think you'll have to suffer alone. Talk to your parents, church leaders, elders,or pastor, share with a close Christian friend and let them comfort you and pray for you and ask for God to deliver to you Him strength in these last days.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- At the same time, stand up for for your faith and up for God and what's right in His sight. If other people try to bully or hurt you because of your Christianity or the fact that you don't agree with certain worldly ideals, thank the Lord for your suffering.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Pray to Him for comfort and guidance and pray for those who try to hurt, bless them that curse, and do good to those people who bully you. People need the love of Christ through you, please give that to them.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Never, ever, hurt another person because of their sexuality or religion. You do not have to agree with them but that does not give you the right to hurt them, in any way, physically, mentally, or emotionally. And if you do hurt them physically there is a good chance you will go to jail.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Make sure you don't 'lord it over' people. It does not make you look like a good Christian, it only makes you look like you think you are better than them, and you aren't.⧼thumbs_response⧽
Things You'll Need
- Bible
- Sermons
- Music
- Books
- Christian symbols