This article was co-authored by Tracey Rogers, MA and by wikiHow staff writer, Amy Bobinger. Tracey L. Rogers is a Certified Life Coach and Professional Astrologer based in Philadelphia. Tracey has over 10 years of life coaching and astrology experience. Her work has been featured on nationally syndicated radio, as well as online platforms such as Oprah.com. She is certified as a Coach by the Life Purpose Institute, and she has an MA in International Education from George Washington University.
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It's really frustrating to make plans with a friend only to have them cancel at the last minute. It's even worse when it starts to become a habit. You might feel like your friend doesn't value your time, or you might even question whether they're really your friend. When it comes to unreliable friends, the problem usually lies on their end, so don't blame yourself. In the meantime, we're here with a few things you can do to keep your cool when your friend blows you off yet again.
Steps
Community Q&A
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QuestionI'm in this situation, but if I do any of this they will end the friendship and I will be lonely. I don't have any other good friends. What do I do?Community AnswerTell your friend that you feel unimportant, and like you're not a priority to them. If they respond positively and in a constructive manner, you should keep them around. If they snap at you, become super defensive, or act flat out rude, then just ditch them. You can always go out and meet new people, or meet friends online, or through family members. This is not your only shot at friendship. There are plenty of great people out there.
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QuestionSome of my friends sometimes give unreliable advice. Does this mean I cant be close to my friends?Community AnswerKeep in mind that advice is limited to the perspective of the person you're asking; everybody is capable of delivering good or bad advice, depending on the subject. While it's good to get multiple sources of input for resolving a problem, your own critical thinking will best determine your course of action. Keep in mind that just because you've asked for advice doesn't mean you're required to follow any that doesn't feel right to you.
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QuestionI have a close friend who is hard for me to trust. What should I do to help this?Sopha1234Community AnswerSit down and have an honest chat with them and tell them how you're feeling. Try to be honest with each other, and you may be able to resolve it.
References
- ↑ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/fickle-friends/
- ↑ https://au.reachout.com/articles/dealing-with-a-toxic-friendship
- ↑ https://www.psychologies.co.uk/my-difficult-friend
- ↑ https://au.reachout.com/articles/dealing-with-a-toxic-friendship/
- ↑ https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/flaky-friends
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-friendship-doctor/201106/when-friend-is-unreliable
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/arguing-and-conflict/dealing-unreliable-partner
- ↑ https://au.reachout.com/articles/dealing-with-a-toxic-friendship
- ↑ Tracey Rogers, MA. Certified Life Coach. Expert Interview. 6 January 2020.
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/arguing-and-conflict/dealing-unreliable-partner
- ↑ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/fickle-friends/
- ↑ https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/flaky-friends
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-art-closeness/201511/how-your-flaky-friend-may-have-gotten-way
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-friendship-doctor/201106/when-friend-is-unreliable
- ↑ https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/flaky-friends
- ↑ https://www.psychologies.co.uk/my-difficult-friend
- ↑ https://au.reachout.com/articles/dealing-with-a-toxic-friendship
- ↑ https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/flaky-friends
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/arguing-and-conflict/dealing-unreliable-partner