Did you have a crush on someone who didn't like you back or did you discover that your boyfriend didn’t care about you the way you cared about him? While romantic rejection is common, it can be a painful and difficult experience to get over. Whether you had a crush on someone who didn’t like you back or you found out your boyfriend didn’t care for you, mending a broken heart can take some time. Read through these tips about getting over a guy to change your perspective and keep moving forward.

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Make a list of your positive qualities.

  1. Remember how awesome you are all on your own. Sit down and write out 10 things you love about yourself, no matter how small. It could be anything: sobriety, fashion sense, kindness toward others, friendships, or being a great cook. Take a look at the list whenever you’re feeling down to pick yourself back up again.[4]
    • Feeling rejected can lower your self esteem, and this exercise is designed to help you remember what a catch you are.
    • Sometimes it can be helpful to ask a good friend for their input. We sometimes have a hard time recognizing positives in ourselves.
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Give yourself time.

  1. It really is the best medicine. Although you may feel frustrated that it’s taking time to get over someone, avoid being hard on yourself. If you try to force yourself to move on quickly, you might make yourself feel even worse.[5]
    • Even if you were not in an official relationship, you have lost someone who you thought was important to you. As a result, you need to give yourself time to recover without feeling like you should be making more progress.
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Distance yourself from the guy.

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Delete old photos that bring back memories.

  1. It might seem painful, but it’s a good way to move on. Of course, you don’t have to get rid of everything (some memories are nice to look back on). However, if your camera roll is full of pics of the two of you, it might be time to clear it out. Consider putting them on a USB drive and keeping them in a drawer if you don’t want to delete them.[7]
    • The same goes for any pictures you have of him hanging around your home. If you don’t want to get rid of them completely, compile them all and put them in a box or a drawer in your closet.
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Hang out with your friends.

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    I would recommend making a list of the top 10 problems you had in the relationship. If you're having trouble remembering anything bad, try asking a friend for help. They'll be able to give you some perspective. While it may be hard, realizing why you broke up will help you heal and move on with your life.
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  • Avoid self-destructive behaviors such as drugs, drinking, and casual sex. These are not effective ways to get over someone, and they can cause more problems.[12]
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  • If you are depressed and thinking about hurting yourself, seek help as soon as possible so you can feel better. You can contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988 if you're in the United States. If you're outside of the United States, please call your country's suicide prevention helpline for assistance.
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it can be hurtful to learn that a guy you liked doesn’t care about you, but by addressing your feelings, enjoying your independence, and getting support from friends, you can get over him. Write your feelings about the guy down in a private journal or simply take some time to think about them, since you won’t be able to move on until you’ve acknowledged how you feel. Try to come up with a list of positive things about yourself, like things you’ve achieved or good character traits you have, as this will help boost your self-esteem. Make time each day for activities you enjoy doing alone, like reading or taking a bath. Reach out to friends and family members to plan fun activities together, since having a good social life with those close to you will help you move on. For tips on how to stay optimistic about the future after someone has rejected you, read on!

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