This article was co-authored by John Keegan and by wikiHow staff writer, Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA. John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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You like someone and you think they may like you, but you don't know for sure. You can always hint in that you like them, without really saying that you like them. Follow this guide and in no time, you'll have your crush reading your mind.
Steps
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1Talk with them. Make sure you at least have some form of relationship, if it's friends to best friends. Friends is an excellent way to get to know someone without it being awkward.
- Observations can be great conversation starters. You might say, "I love the way you match the colors in your outfit."[1]
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2Touch them, but not in an inappropriate way. Bump them gently in the hall, maybe "accidentally" slide your hand over theirs, etc.Advertisement
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3Laugh at almost all their jokes. Even if they are corny, people like it when someone enjoys their jokes. However, be careful about laughing too much! It will make you appear false and it will get annoying. A small chuckle or giggle will do.
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4Help them. If they ever need help with homework, schoolwork, or other problems, offer to help. Don't just sit around. Helping someone out forms a mental bond that is often mistaken as love. This is obviously a bit manipulative for you to know this while the other person doesn't, but it does work very well. Still, if you'd prefer not using manipulation to meet your goals, you could always drop this fact with the "Hey, did you know..." method. Not only would it hint towards your interest in an innocent, non-creepy way, but it would also form an opinion of you as a knowledgeable person.
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5Get involved. Ask them if they play any sports. If so, what sports? Do they have any hobbies? What music do they like?
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6Start seeing them outside of school. Ask them when and where their next game is. Try planning a group party, with some of your friends and some of their friends. Anything that will get you talking outside the school, go for it.
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7Ask for their number or email address. When you do this, wait a little bit before emailing or calling them. When you do call or email, make it quick and not too awkward.
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8Don't ever tune them out. Pay attention to what this person says. People love when someone listens.
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9Compliment them. If they get a haircut, say it's wonderful. If they got a new shirt, say it looks nice. Everyone loves compliments.
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10Have them over to your house for a study date. But don't overdo it. Don't dress in fancy clothing or play romantic music. For better results, ask if they want to stay for dinner.
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11Pull them aside and say "I heard a rumor spreading that you like me. Is that true? Tell me the truth, I won't be upset,". This is sometimes good, sometimes bad.
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12Consider just passing a note to them saying that you like them.
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13If you don't know them well and you are shy, have a friend tell them you like them. That way, it'll feel less awkward to you, and they'll know how you feel.
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14Hang around them, with your friends, or alone. You'll find out more about them, and vice versa.
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15Have a friend eavesdrop a bit on them when you leave the room, to see if they say anything about you when you're out of range.
Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow do you subtly compliment a girl?John KeeganJohn Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
Dating CoachPretend that you're giving her some positive feedback. After a conversation, you could say "You're a really good listener! I felt really heard during that chat." -
QuestionHow do you compliment someone's physical appearance?John KeeganJohn Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
Dating CoachMake your compliment really heartfelt. "You have really soulful eyes" or "You have really intelligent eyes" are a couple of compliments you could try. -
QuestionWhat are some funny ways to tell someone you like them?wikiHow Staff EditorThis answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Staff AnswerwikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerIt all depends on your individual sense of humor (and your crush’s)! You might try something silly, like “Who has two thumbs and thinks you’re awesome? This guy/girl!” If you think your crush would appreciate it, you can also try a cheesy pickup line, like “Do you like raisins? Well, how would you feel about a date?” Playful teasing can also work well. Try something like, “Why do you have to be so sweet and smart and good looking all the time, you big jerk?”
Warnings
- Be prepared for denial. If they say no, don't cry in front of them. This may lead to them asking you out on a pity date. That is even worse. Instead, say that it's fine and ask if you can still be friends.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Do not stalk them! No one likes stalkers. Don't send off that vibe.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- If you ask out a friend's previous boyfriend or girlfriend and they are not okay with it, it may ruin your friendship.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Do not obsess! They may find this creepy.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- If you do ask them out, this may ruin a good friendship.⧼thumbs_response⧽
Things You'll Need
- A guy/girl you like
- Paper and pencil to pass a note (optional)
- A good friend
- Courage to ask them out and hit on them
- Confidence!
References
- ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 13 July 2021.