How to Perform a Striptease

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Take it off! Not only is a striptease the perfect way to seduce your partner, it's also super empowering for you and will make you feel incredibly sexy. And you don't have to be a dancer to do it. Choose a seductive outfit, set the mood, then get those hips and hands moving. Just make you go very slowly for the ultimate tease.

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Dressing Up

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Put on a pretty set of undergarments or lingerie underneath your clothes. Now is not the time for cotton sports bras or granny panties. Instead, opt for something a little sexier, like a matching lace bra and underwear or a sheer bodysuit. Choose pieces that flatter your figure and show off your best assets.
- For example, if you love your back but aren’t a fan of your belly, wear a teddy that dips low in the back and provides coverage in the front over your midsection.
- Men might select a pair of silk boxer briefs in a slightly see-through black.
How to Pick the Perfect Lingerie

Style
To flaunt your breasts, pick a balconette brassiere or push-up bra with extra padding.

To show off your butt, wear a thong or a pair of cheeky panties that are cut high on your behind.

Color and Material
For a sexy vibe, go with black or bright red. Choose pieces that are strappy, sheer, or have leather accents.

For the girl-next-door look, look for ruffles and lace in white or pale pastels.

Extras
A garter belt, thigh-high stockings with a racy seam up the back, or fishnets all look seductive paired with your undergarments.
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Dress in clothes that are comfortable and easy to take off. Your outerwear is the least important part of your striptease. You want something that you feel good in and that you can remove without much trouble. Pick a slip dress or a sheer blouse with a stretchy skirt, for example, or, for men, wear loose jeans and a pullover.^{[1]
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- Stay away from anything super tight, like skinny jeans, or clothes in a scratchy fabric that could irritate your partner if you dance against them.
- Avoid lots of layers. You don’t want to be spending a lot of time taking off a sweater, blouse, and tank top.
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Go for a costume if you and your partner are into roleplaying. Adopting a new persona for the night can add an exciting twist to your striptease. You can’t go wrong with the classic sexy librarian look, complete with glasses, a button-down shirt, and pencil skirt. Or, if your partner likes a woman or man in uniform, rock a form-fitting cop costume.
- Find costumes at a Halloween store, party store, or online retailer.
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Slip on a pair of sky-high stilettos that elongate your legs. Heels not only add extra sex appeal to your striptease, they also make your hips sway more when you walk and slim your legs. Pick a pair that matches your lingerie or opt for classic black peep-toes.^{[2]
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- Make sure you can walk in your heels beforehand. Stilettos lose their flair if you’re stumbling around.
- If you buy new shoes for the striptease, break them in by wearing them around the house with thick socks. It will stretch out the shoes so they aren’t too tight on your feet.^{[3]
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Wear your hair in a tousled, bedhead style. The mussed, woke-up-like-this look is very effortless yet sensual at the same time. If you’re a man, simply run some mousse through your hair. If you’re a woman, style your hair in long, loose waves or a messy low bun, with a few face-framing tendrils.^{[4]
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- Spritz some texturizing spray or sea salt spray on your hair to hold tousled curls better.
- A bun is a fun option for a striptease because you can unpin it while you dance so your hair falls onto your shoulders.
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Play up either your eyes or lips with makeup if you want extra drama. The best bedroom makeup is a dark, smokey eye or a bold, red lip. Don’t do both though, or you’ll look overdone. Choose one, then keep the rest of your face neutral.
- For example, if you want a dramatic eye, brush deep brown eyeshadow on your lids, line them with black eyeliner, and pile dark mascara on both your upper and lower lashes. Pair it with a nude lipstick.^{[5]
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- If you want to draw attention to your pout, try a lip plumper or a plumping gloss, which will make your lips appear fuller.

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Setting the Scene

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Dim the lights to create a romantic mood. Low lighting is also much more flattering than bright overhead lighting. If your switches have dimmers, use those to darken the room. Otherwise, turn on a table lamp or plug in a nightlight for less harsh light.^{[6]
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- Candles can also create a soft glow that’s perfect for a sensual striptease. Just be careful they’re out of the way so you don’t accidentally toss your clothes on top of them.
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Set up a chair and any other props you might need. Choose a room where you’ll have enough space and place the chair in the center of the room so you can move around your partner. Gather things like a silk scarf, rope, handcuffs, or anything else you want for your performance so you don’t have to interrupt your show later on.
- Any type of chair will work, but one without arms is best so you can dance on your partner easily.
- A chair that has a back will be more comfortable for your partner. They'll be able to lean back to watch you.
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Turn on slow music that will match the rhythm of your dancing. Sexy R&B music is popular for stripteases because the beat is easy to move your hips to. Most of all, pick something that you feel sexy listening to and gets you in the right mindset.
- Avoid anything too fast-paced or upbeat that could ruin the mood.
- Keep the music soft. It should just be background noise and not so loud that it takes away from your performance.

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Putting on a Show

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Ask your partner to sit in the chair and gently tie their hands behind it. Part of what makes a striptease so fun is the “tease” aspect. Use a silk scarf or rope to loosely secure your partner’s hands behind the chair so they can’t touch you while you dance.^{[7]
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- You can also use handcuffs. Look for cuffs with a soft lining that won’t hurt your partner’s wrists.
- Don’t tie their hands too tightly or they’ll be in pain instead of enjoying your performance.
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Run your hands over your body as you sway your hips in smooth circles. Keep in mind that your partner’s eyes will go wherever your hands go. Keep your hips moving the entire time, rubbing your hands up and down your sides and even across your front.^{[8]
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- Slowly swinging your hips in the shape of a figure 8 is another sensual dance move.
- If you aren’t sure where to put your hands, imagine if your partner were touching you. Where would their hands be? Put yours there.
- Practice your dance moves in the mirror before you try them out on your partner so you feel confident and comfortable.
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Maintain a sexy facial expression, including eye contact, as you dance. Looking into your partner’s eyes during the striptease makes it much more intimate. Keep your lips slightly parted, and toss in a playful smirk every so often. After all, you know what you’re doing to them, and you secretly love it!^{[9]
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- Bite your lip occasionally while gazing at your partner for an extra seductive touch.
- Every so often, you can drag your eyes away for a few seconds before flicking them back to your partner. You don’t need to stare directly at them the entire time.
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Remove your outerwear one piece at a time, teasing with peeks of skin. The trick to a good striptease is taking off your clothes very slowly. If you’re wearing a shirt with buttons, unhook it button by button. Then slide your skirt down your legs, shimmying your hips as it falls.^{[10]
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- If you’re wearing a dress or a top with straps, slip the straps off before sensually pulling the garment over your head.
- You can also start to remove your top by pushing it down your shoulder, then pulling it back up for extra teasing.
- The longer it takes for you to undress, the more effective the striptease is at turning your partner on.
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Set one foot on the chair to roll off your stockings if you’re wearing them. Slide off your shoes, then place one foot either on your partner’s lap or next to them on the chair. Push your stocking down your leg, while arching your back slightly. Repeat on the other side.^{[11]
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- If your stockings are clipped to a garter belt or lingerie, make sure you unclip them first.
- Leave your shoes off for the rest of the dance or slip them back on after taking off your stockings.
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Turn away from your partner to take off your bra. Start by undoing the clasp, one hook at a time, with your back facing them. Slip the straps down your shoulders, then remove the bra completely. Let it dangle from your fingertips before dropping it to the ground.^{[12]
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- Push 1 strap off, then the other, instead of both at the same to draw it out if you want.
- You can also lightly toss the bra over your shoulder so it lands by their feet. Then glance back at them, biting your lip, to see just how excited they are.
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Slip off your underwear, toying with the edges as you do. This is the last move, so it should be the most dramatic! Pull down one side of your underwear, then pull it back up. Repeat on the other side, fingering the waistband, before you actually remove your panties.^{[13]
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- Gracefully kick the underwear off with your foot or reach down to grab it and toss it onto your partner’s lap.
- You can do this either facing your partner or with your back to them.

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Put together a playlist of sexy songs that create the mood you want. Something slow and sexy usually works best. Put on an outfit that makes you feel really sexy. Start to do a sensual strip tease while standing far away from your partner, and slowly move closer to them while making eye contact. Make sure to move with the beat of the music. Climb into their lap and switch between sitting on their lap and dancing or bending over them. The moves are up to you—just move with the music and do what feels sexy!
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Move your hips in time to the music. Exaggerate your movements and move in a slow, sensual way. You might run your hands over your body and bite your lip to make it look like you’re aroused. Make a lot of eye contact with your partner to create a sense of connection.