How to Seduce a Woman With a Foot Massage

Co-authored by Will Fuller and Christopher M. Osborne, PhD

Last Updated: March 14, 2023 References

At the end of a long day, the woman in your life (or who you want to be in your life) may be eager to accept your offer of a foot massage. If you’re hoping the massage may turn into something more, set a sensual mood and make sure you give a thorough massage that feels great. When the time is right, make your seductive play—but be ready to try again another time if things don’t turn out your way this time around!

Part 1

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Creating a Sensual Atmosphere

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Clean up the room and lay down a soft cotton sheet. Let’s face it—a messy room that’s full of junk just isn’t sensual. Take the time to declutter the room where you intend to give the massage, and take the extra step of laying down a clean cotton sheet for her to relax on during the massage. ^{[1]
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- Soft cotton sheets will feel good on her skin, and they make cleaning up any spilled lotion or body oil much easier.
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Turn down the lights, and consider using aromatherapy candles. Dimming the lights creates a more soothing and sensual atmosphere. Adding candles, especially ones that use her favorite scents, can turn the sensuality up another notch.^{[2]
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- Make sure there’s enough light to see what you’re doing!
- Try, for instance, vanilla, cinnamon, rose, or lavender scented candles. Set them up around the room to create mood lighting.
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Put on some calming music. While you might think that romantic music is the way to go here, instead go with soothing instrumental music or even nature sounds. You want to help her become as calm and relaxed as possible.^{[3]
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- There’s a chance that this might help her to drift off to sleep, but rely on your massage skills to keep her awake and interested in you!
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Make sure your hands are warm before you touch her feet. She definitely won’t find the feel of cold hands on her feet seductive! Take 10-15 seconds to rub your hands together vigorously or blow on them to warm them up before starting the massage.^{[4]
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- Even better, wrap your hands in a warm towel for 1-2 minutes before starting the massage.
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Grab some lotion or body oil to ramp up the sensuality. Lotions and body oils reduce friction and enhance the sensation of the massage. Choose a lotion or oil intended for massages, and consider scented options. Squeeze a few drops into your hands and rub them together.^{[5]
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- Consider warming the oil or lotion beforehand by holding the bottle in your hands for 2 or 3 minutes. Alternatively, buy a plug-in lotion warmer from a beauty supply store.
- Don’t use the microwave to heat up lotion or oil—you’ll end up with hot spots that can burn!

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Giving a High-Quality Foot Massage

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Massage one foot at a time for maximum relaxation. While focusing your attention on one of her feet, place the other on the soft cotton sheet, on a pillow, or in a warm water soak. Once you’ve completed the full massage routine on one foot, repeat the exact same process on the other foot.
- Ask her if one foot is particularly sore or tight, and start with that one.
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Rub the top of her foot with your thumbs. Start at the tip of the big toe and move slowly to her ankle. Then, move back down the same foot, using firm pressure with your thumbs while cupping her foot in your hands.^{[6]
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- Work your way up and down her foot 2 or 3 times.
- If she's reclining on a sofa or bed, sit in a chair at her feet. If you're using a massage table, stand up.
- Hold her foot so that it’s close to your chest—this helps control the amount of pressure you apply.
- Use the muscles in your hands, arms and shoulders to apply the massage, not just those in your thumbs. Otherwise, your thumbs will cramp up and ruin the mood!
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Massage the arch of her foot with your thumbs. Apply light pressure to the arch, rotating one thumb clockwise and the other one counterclockwise. Continue doing this for 30 seconds or longer.^{[7]
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- Cup her foot with light pressure as you massage the arch with your thumbs. If you grab or rub too lightly, though, the massage is more likely to feel ticklish.
- Ask her if the pressure you're applying feels good, and check for other feedback (like "oohs" and "ahhs") that indicate you're doing it right.
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Rub her heel and Achilles tendon. With her foot still cupped in your hands, slide your thumbs up and down the Achilles tendon, which runs from the heel to the lower calf. Then, use your thumbs to rub her heel in opposing circular motions.
- If the skin on her heel is dry, apply additional lotion or oil to your hands to reduce friction and discomfort.
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Rotate, squeeze, and pull on each toe with gentle pressure. Cup her foot securely in one hand. With the other hand, gently pinch her big toe between your thumb and forefinger, near the base of the toe. Rotate the toe gently to one side, then the other, then gently pull the toe away from the foot by pinching and sliding your fingers towards the tip of the toe.^{[8]
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- Repeat the same process with the other 4 toes.
- Don’t twist or yank on her toes—be gentle!
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Use your finger to massage between her toes. While continuing to cup her foot in one hand, place your index finger between the tips of her big toe and second toe. Slide your finger down the inside of the big toe to the base, then come back up the inside of the second toe. ^{[9]
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- Repeat this move 2 or 3 more times, then move on to the second and third toes.
- Continue to apply even pressure with your finger and your cupping hand as you work.
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Massage her ankle with your thumb and forefinger. Gently squeeze the hollow area below her ankle for 5-10 seconds. Then, use both thumbs to make circular motions around the outside of the ankle bone. Apply even pressure as you work.^{[10]
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Massage the sole of her foot with your fist. While continuing to cup her foot with one hand, make a fist with the other hand and press it against the sole of her foot. Make circular motions with your fist, as if you are kneading dough. After 10-15 seconds, slide your fist up and down the sole of her foot, continuing to apply even pressure throughout.^{[11]
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- Use your knuckles to massage from her heel to her toes using broad strokes.
- Move on to massaging the other foot now that you’ve finished the first one. However, if she requests some additional work on the first foot, be sure to say “yes”!

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Making Your Seductive Move

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Let her know you enjoy giving her a foot massage. Make small murmurs (a deep, quietly whispered "mmmm" works beautifully) and widen your smile to a grin at intervals, to show her that you're fully appreciating every interaction with her body.
- Instead of acting like you’re in a rush to get to what you hope will happen after the massage, focus on enjoying what you’re doing now and build up anticipation for the next step.^{[12]
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Kiss her feet after you’ve finished the massage. Don’t jump right into making sloppy kisses all over her feet. Instead, complete the massage, then ask her if she's enjoying it. Assuming she says yes, try gently kissing her feet a few times. After 20-30 seconds or so, look up and ask, "How are you enjoying it now?"^{[13]
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- If she isn’t into the foot kissing and seems ready for the massage to end, take the cue and stop trying to seduce her for now. But don’t worry, your efforts may pay dividends at another time!
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Ask if you can massage the rest of her. This is a big step, so word the question in a way that gives her a clear signal of what you’re hoping will happen. Simply saying, "Can I massage the rest of you?" might just work wonders on its own.
- If you think she's in the mood and you want to try something a little more seductive, say, "The rest of you looks tired too. Can I take care of that for you?"
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Say "yes" if she asks to massage you. In some cases, she may want to turn the tables and give you a massage. This is usually a strong signal that she wants to go further than just a massage, so you should definitely agree.
- Don't blurt out "heck yeah!" or mutter "I guess," though. Instead, say "sure" or "yes I would" in your seductive voice!
- Sometimes a massage is just a massage, however, so don't assume too much. Just enjoy the massage and, if anything beyond that happens, think of it as the icing on the cake!

Community Q&A

Question

Does kissing a girl's neck make her horny?

Community Answer

It can be a very big turn on if done correctly and passionately.
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What if she says no to step #9?

Dean

Community Answer

Then, that's it. She doesn't want to be touched anywhere else and you need to respect that. You can respond with "Okay" and ask if she wants you to keep massaging her feet because she might still want a foot massage and nothing else.
Question

If she is asleep and I massage her foot and suck on her toes, will it turn her on still?

Community Answer

Do not do anything to a woman while she is sleeping, even if you think she would consent to it while she's awake. It's always best to ask permission before you do something, and you cannot ask permission from a sleeping person.