If you and your husband haven't been feeling as close lately, it can be difficult to know how to spend your time together. Thankfully, there's a ton of creative ways to hang out with your husband that can actually strengthen your bond. This list is here to help you revive the spark in your marriage and learn new things about each other, no matter how long you've been together.

1

Cook a meal together.

  1. Spice up your life together (literally). Choose a recipe you've never tackled before to make it a fun challenge. Turn on some music in the kitchen and catch up as you cook, divvying up the responsibilities according to what you both enjoy. Even if neither of you are super strong chefs, trying something new like this can make your time together feel fresh and exciting.[1] [2]
    • Alternatively, work together to make your husband's favorite meal, or try to mimic the recipe of a dish at a restaurant you both enjoy.
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2

Play games all night.

  1. Nothing passes the time quite like a heated board game battle. Break out any of the board games that are sitting in your closet, or buy a new one you've both never played before. If board games aren't your style, try video games instead. Make sure it's a two-player game so you can spend time as a twosome. Stay up late until the game is done (or at least until you beat that super hard level), and set out plenty of snacks and drinks to make it feel like a party.[3]
    • If you want, invite another couple over to play games with you. You can battle each other and make it a fun double-date at home.
    • Playing games like this can strengthen your friendship with your husband, which can really help your marriage as well. Studies show that couples who consider themselves best friends with their partner have a happier, healthier marriage.[4]
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Have some fun in the bedroom.

  1. Sex is a great way to strengthen your marriage. To make things more interesting at home, talk to your husband about your fantasies and experiment. Ask your husband if there's anything he would like to try, or offer some suggestions yourself. Although every couple is different, sex can really help revive your relationship if it's feeling stuck.[9]
    • If you're not in the mood to have sex, try just getting close with your husband. Spend some time cuddling on your bed or holding hands while you watch TV.
    • Only try things that you're both comfortable with. Sex is only enjoyable if both people feel respected and safe.
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Engage in a deep discussion.

  1. Talk about the news, politics, or philosophy. Though you may talk often about responsibilities, plans, and thoughts about the day, this is a good opportunity to learn new things about your partner. Bring up a topic that's been in the news and ask what your husband thinks of it. Read the same article and talk about your perspectives on it.[10] Watch a documentary film and discuss what you thought after it's over. [11]
    • If you're having trouble getting the conversation started, you can also try some icebreaker questions, like, "What's your philosophy in life?" or "What influenced your political beliefs to become what they are now?"[12]
    • You could also share what's going on in your lives, like what your day was like or something that's been frustrating at work.[13]
    • If things get heated, remember to respect your partner's point of view. It's okay for you two to have different opinions. Take it as an opportunity to learn and grow with each other.
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Schedule phone-free time.

  1. Use this as an opportunity to really listen to each other. Staring at your phone instead of your partner hurts your communication as a couple. A study published in 2017 even found that it can diminish how satisfied you are in your marriage over time.[14] To avoid these negative effects, pick a time to put your phones away and talk. Alternatively, choose places in your house where you both agree to not use your phone, like the bedroom.
    • When your husband talks to you, make sure to keep your eyes off your phone. Even if you get a text, wait until your conversation is over to answer it.
    • Though things may come up, like work phone calls or emergencies, being more conscious of how your phone usage affects your partner makes the time you spend together more intentional.
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Drop the kids off on a playdate for some alone time.

  1. If you have kids, enjoy some quiet time at the house for a bit. Though you may get to spend a lot of time with your husband and family, it's important that you get some solo time together, too. Plan a play date for your kids so that they can spend time at a friend's house for the afternoon. Then, enjoy your alone time together. Make cocktails or iced tea, lounge together on the couch, and catch up.[15]

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    How can I get my husband to spend more time with me?
    Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC
    Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC
    Licensed Professional Counselor
    Dr. Tara Vossenkemper is a Licensed Professional Counselor and the Founder and Managing Director of The Counseling Hub, LLC, a group counseling practice located in Columbia, Missouri. She is also the Founder of and a Business Consultant with Tara Vossenkemper Consulting, LLC, a consulting service for therapy practice owners. With over nine years of experience, she specializes in using the Gottman Method of relationship therapy with couples on the brink of divorce, who have conflict, or who feel disconnected from one another. Dr. Vossenkemper holds a BA in Psychology from The University of Missouri, Saint Louis, an MA in Counseling from Missouri Baptist University, and a PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision from The University of Missouri, Saint Louis. She has also completed Level 3 training in the Gottman Method Couples Therapy approach and has been formally trained in both the Prepare-Enrich Premarital Couples Counseling approach and the PREP Approach for couples counseling.
    Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC
    Licensed Professional Counselor
    Expert Answer
    Look for fun activities to do together! Pick an activity that you both enjoy, whether that's hiking, watching a movie, cooking, or something else entirely.
  • Question
    What is the sweetest thing to say to your husband?
    Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC
    Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC
    Licensed Professional Counselor
    Dr. Tara Vossenkemper is a Licensed Professional Counselor and the Founder and Managing Director of The Counseling Hub, LLC, a group counseling practice located in Columbia, Missouri. She is also the Founder of and a Business Consultant with Tara Vossenkemper Consulting, LLC, a consulting service for therapy practice owners. With over nine years of experience, she specializes in using the Gottman Method of relationship therapy with couples on the brink of divorce, who have conflict, or who feel disconnected from one another. Dr. Vossenkemper holds a BA in Psychology from The University of Missouri, Saint Louis, an MA in Counseling from Missouri Baptist University, and a PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision from The University of Missouri, Saint Louis. She has also completed Level 3 training in the Gottman Method Couples Therapy approach and has been formally trained in both the Prepare-Enrich Premarital Couples Counseling approach and the PREP Approach for couples counseling.
    Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC
    Licensed Professional Counselor
    Expert Answer
    Ask him about his day! Invite him to share everything that's going on his world, from his thoughts and feelings to his fears and opinions.
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  2. https://www.today.com/health/30-easy-not-cheesy-ways-fall-love-your-husband-again-t74681
  3. https://www.thecut.com/article/questions-for-couples.html
  4. Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 27 October 2021.
  5. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/312382860_Partner_phubbing_and_depression_among_married_Chinese_adults_The_roles_of_relationship_satisfaction_and_relationship_length
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