How to Act Quiet and Mysterious

Last Updated: October 19, 2022

Want to be mysterious, and quiet? Then read this.
It is a nice way to avoid long and boring conversations, and it feels good to know that you are practicing your emotions and keeping them to yourself ..

Steps

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Try to shorten the things you want to say.
- Never say anything more than you need to say. (Example: Correct "What are you doing after school?", "Nothing." Incorrect, "What are you doing after school?", "I'm gonna go home, sit down, read a book, eat supper and then maybe go shopping.") Keep the details to a minimum.
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Always have a smirk or closed-mouth smile, it makes you look more mysterious, as if you know something that they do not know.

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Don't lose your temper, as it can make you look crazy and people will think that you have anger issues, something which you (hopefully) would not want someone to think. Being calm when someone makes you angry gives you the advantage, it also makes you seem more mysterious since you can keep your emotions in check.
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Sit in parks or next to trees and write in a notepad, draw, or read. You can draw what you are feeling, write in your journal, read books, listen to music, or just watch your surroundings. Basically anything that would make people think that you are quiet and mysterious, like you are content with yourself and you do not need other people, and you can just keep on living.
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Try not to laugh, as laughing can make you seem more outgoing; if you need to laugh, make it a deep chuckle or a giggle.
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Be serious.Do your homework, go to work on time, etc. Being more serious about stuff is good.
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Be sweet.
- If someone walks up to you and tries to start a conversation, be polite, smile, and answer questions (With minimum detail!) If they happen to ask any, don't give them answers if you feel uncomfortable with their question. Politely say you don't want to answer it.
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Wear minimal makeup.
- Eyeliner, dark eyeshadow, maybe lip balm or a little gloss...not too much!!
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And if you have acne,some foundation might help...or try facial wash.
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If someone says , "Hi" to you, sometimes it's better just to do a quick smile. If you think it seems rude you can say, "hi" but just like in a loud whisper.
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If you are in the car or sitting on the sofa try to sit on one of the edges. The middle seat seems like you really want to sit with people and talk and answer.
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Decide which parts of your personality you want to always keep on display, and which parts you want others to only catch a glimpse of. For example, you might let everyone know you don't like reading, but you might only let it slip out every now and then that you're deathly afraid of speaking in public.
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Stay quiet...don't talk at every opportunity.This shows people you know when to talk and when you do, you have something important to say. Don't stop talking altogether though.
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Often just read a book or draw. Don't skip rope or go play football or something like that. If you're going swimming or ice skating, simply go around just floating or looking about. Playing on rafts or using a bar to skate aren't very clever ways to make people think you're all that mysterious.
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Don't watch T.V too much. You can when you're alone. Watching T.V may seem harmless enough, but if you get caught watching shows like Zoey 101 or Wizards of Waverly Place, people are going to think you're playing with them, which you are. But you don't want them to discover that!!
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Wear deep purples, black, deep reds, forest greens, anything with a dark flair. Pair your outfit with things like long vintage necklaces, beaded black and purple earrings. Wear shorter skirts with fishnet stockings and colored tights. This is a really cool look.
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Don't talk a lot about your opinions and feelings, except maybe to very close friends and family. Try not to let expressions show on your face. If you aren't obvious about your emotions, you will seem even more mysterious.

Expert Q&A

Question

Is it good to be mysterious in a relationship?

Julianne Cantarella
Dating & Relationship Coach
Julianne Cantarella is a Dating Coach, Certified Life Coach, Licensed Social Worker, and the CEO and President of New Jersey's Matchmaker. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in helping women heal from a heartbreak and create healthy long-term relationships. Julianne created a comprehensive transformational date coaching program From First Date to Soulmate™ that has helped hundreds of women find love. She holds a Bachelor of Social Work (BSW) from Ramapo College of New Jersey and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from Fordham University. Julianne has contributed to numerous media such as Your Tango Online Magazine, 24Seven Wellness Magazine, and Talk of The Town Magazine. She has also been featured as a relationship expert on CBS, iHeartRadio, and PBS “This Emotional Life Project.”

Julianne Cantarella

Dating & Relationship Coach

Expert Answer

I don't really support the idea of being mysterious when dating. I believe you should strive to be your genuine and authentic self in a relationship whenever possible.
Question

What do I do if I am quiet but someone keeps on trying to start a conversation with me?

Community Answer

Keep your answers to a minimum of a few words, if possible. Be polite, but also be curt. Generally, people take that as a sign you do not want to talk.
Question

Do I only talk when people approach me?

Community Answer

Yes, but try to use minimal words to respond.

Warnings

Your friends might think something is wrong.

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Try to mix your true self in with all of this as well.

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Being too mysterious could make people -- especially your parents -- think that you're up to something not good. Keep it low, and don't go overboard.

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Don't do anything if it makes you uncomfortable or dislike it.

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People could start thinking you don't like them anymore and stop bothering you and ignore you and move on even. If you want to keep your friends, don't do this for a very long period. It's not worth being a loner, even if it is fun.

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You may be classed as moody.

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