Your Guide to the Heart of a Sunny, Adventurous Sagittarius Man

Learn to talk, act, and dress like this fire sign's dream partner

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Caroline Heiderscheit

Last Updated: March 17, 2023 References Approved

Attracting Him with Your Personality

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Winning Him with Your Looks

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Understanding Sagittarius Traits

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Expert Q&A

Fiery, bright, and totally charming, Sagittarius men are the definition of crushworthy. If you have your eye on the zodiac’s centaur, you’ve chosen well—and now, you might be wondering you can capture his interest. Below, we’ve covered absolutely everything you need to know. We’ll walk you through what you can do to attract him. Plus, we’ll give you an in-depth rundown on the Sagittarius psychology, so you truly understand him too. Ready to make this friendly fire sign yours? Read on for more.

Things You Should Know

Attract him with a fun-loving, spontaneous personality. If you show him that you want to have an amazing time together, he'll love it.
Dress to impress by staying true to your personal style. More than anything, he'll want to see that you feel great in your own skin.
Understand his nature as a Sag man. He's enthusiastic, truth-seeking, energetic, and super charming—and he'll want you to see those qualities in him.

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Attracting Him with Your Personality

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Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} This is a sign that truly can’t be tamed—your Sagittarius crush is all about wild activities, off-the-cuff decisions, and adventure, 24/7. His greatest fear is probably falling into a rut (or, a relationship with someone who can’t ride the wave). So if you show him that you’re just as fun, curious, and bold as he is, it’ll go a long way.
- Suggest something bold. Maybe you two are at a party…why not ask him to sneak off to the rooftop pool for a midnight swim?
- Surprise him with an adventure. If you know him well, show up with a blindfold and take him to a special outdoor spot you know he’d love.
- Go along with his zany plans. If your Sag crush wants to do something random, your enthusiasm will mean the world to him—he’s looking for a partner in crime after all!
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Maintain an air of mystery to keep him on his toes. Sagittarius is one of the most curious signs in the zodiac. If you’re an enigma that he’s constantly trying to figure out, you’ll be naturally alluring to him. So if you can, don’t give too much away off the bat. Make him work to learn more about you, and you’ll become that much more exciting to him.
- Give vague responses to his questions: “Oh, you want to know my story? You’ll have to work harder than that!”
- Ask more questions than you answer: “Enough about me—what about you? What’s your family like?
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Tell the truth, even when it’s hard. Sagittarius are honest to a fault, and if you break his trust, he might not be able to see past it.^{[2]
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Research source} This fire sign craves authenticity in all of their relationships, so show him that you’re someone he can trust to tell it like it is—because he’ll love you for it. Sag men will be especially touched if you’re able to keep it real when it would be way easier to water down the truth.
- Share your real opinions. If he asks you whether you believe aliens are real, he wants your genuine take (and he’ll be able to tell if you haven't given it!).
- If you mess up, fess up. Even if you made a big mistake, you’ll earn points back with Sagittarius if you’re direct and apologetic.
- Don’t lie to fit in. He wants someone real; if your opinions change in big groups, that’ll be a red flag in his book.
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Keep things fun, light, and sunny. Sagittarius, maybe more than any other sign, loves to find the silver lining. In his mind, life is short—so why spend time moping around? If he likes you, he’ll want you two to get to truly relish each other’s company. So that means he’ll want your dates to be filled with jokes, dancing, and big smiles.
- Make him laugh. Why not get a little silly? If you show off your best impression, he’ll be obsessed with your goofy side.
- Actively seek out fun. Ice cream for breakfast, dancing to street musicians, and playing dress up at thrift stores—these are all Sag favorites.
- Enjoy his positivity. Sag is great, because he’ll make you feel lighter too. If he can tell that you appreciate that in him, he’ll love it.
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Make him feel challenged. This sign is energetic, dynamic, and maybe a little competitive. If you show him that you’re someone who can inspire him to think, grow, and improve, he’ll be thrilled. Start a friendly debate when you can, or look for ways that you can challenge him to reach for the stars in his own life.
- If he shares an opinion, politely disagree: “I actually think that “Concorde” is the best song on the album, it’s more complex.”
- When you two are out for a walk, why not challenge him to a race home? He’ll love all of the excitement you're able to create.
- Force him to think big. Say he says he dreams of leaving his hometown: “You could go anywhere! Why not make it your goal to travel the world?”
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Show him that you’re a traveler at heart. This fire sign is famous for their nomadic spirit. He wants to see everything, and if he knows you want that too, it’ll make you that much more attractive to him. Show him that not only are you willing to travel, but you actually find it as meaningful and fulfilling as he does.
- Suggest a spontaneous roadtrip. If you surprise him with logistics, snacks, and a great playlist, it’ll completely blow his mind.
- Ask all about his past travels: “Wow, Israel. I can’t imagine how amazing that would be. What was your favorite part?"
- Talk to him about your plans. “Right now, my top dream vacations are Tanzania, Argentina, Malta, New Zealand, and Japan.”
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Turn up the flirtatious charm. Sagittarius guys are known for being one of the flirtiest guys in the zodiac. He’ll love batting his eyes and sweetly teasing you every now and again. Return that same energy, and you’ll make him want to chase you. If you can, try touching him in a playful way or giving him super solid, intriguing eye contact.
- Send him cute, flirty texts: “I just saw your doppelganger at the mall…it got my hopes up, thought I might get to see you 😉”
- If you notice an eyelash on his face, offer to get it for him.
- Or, try being super straightforward about your crush on him: “Well, we all know I’m nursing a massive crush on you. My cards are on the table!”
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Show him that you’re independent. More than just about any other sign, Sag men are afraid of codependent relationships. In love, he wants to date someone who has a strong sense of self, with their own hobbies and passions. For this reason, he’s most compatible with super self-reliant people. Tell him about the things you love to do alone, and do your best not to pressure him to hang out when he's busy. You’ll have him wrapped around your finger in no time!.
- What’s your passion? Maybe you’re an artist, a fitness enthusiast, or a gamer. Make sure to mention your hobby, along with your investment in it: “I feel like I have to spend a few hours at the studio every week or I’ll go nuts.”
- If he needs time alone, try to respect that: “I never want your passions to fall by the wayside. You should always get to do what you love!”

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Winning Him with Your Looks

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Wear outfits that suit your specific tastes—not the latest trends. Sagittarius likes authentic, free thinkers. So if he gets the sense that you wear whatever the fashion mags suggest, he might not be into that. He’d much rather you develop a distinct, personal style and see you stick to it.
- Our advice? Don’t overthink it. If you genuinely like your top and you feel amazing in your jeans, then that means you’re already dressing exactly how he’d love for you to.
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Do your best to smell great. To appeal to Sagittarius’ specific tastes, try out scents with hints of citrus and orange blossom. Pheromones actually play a huge role in attraction (meaning, subtle hints in your personal smell attract guys without them even realizing it!). So regular showers are a great call, too.
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Play up your hips and your thighs. Sagittarius’ favorite body parts are the hips, thighs, and upper legs. So what does this mean for you? If you’re looking to catch his eye, this is a great part of your look to focus on. Try out skirts and shorts that show off your amazing legs, or wear dresses that hug your hips tight.
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Draw his eyes to your amazing smile. Sagittarius wants someone super sunny and optimistic, and what's the best way to show off your sweet side? Your smile! Play up your lips and teeth, and your crush is definitely going to notice. You might wear a bright, bold lipstick or try whitening your teeth over time.
- Can't be bothered with makeup and teeth whitening? That's cool! He really just wants to feel like you're a warm person who loves his company. Simply showing him your big, bright smile on the regular will send the same message, too.
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Wear outfits that make you feel ultra confident. At the end of the day, all guys (but Sagittarius men especially) love to see you feeling great. Confidence is super attractive, so if you’re wearing something that makes you feel amazing, he’ll be head over heels. Pull out your favorite top or show off your dazzling heels—whatever makes you feel fabulous!
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Wear bright purple clothes, accessories, and makeup. Though every Sag is different, this sign's signature hue is a bright, intoxicating purple. Some astrologers believe that people's eyes are drawn to their sign's color, so following that logic, a purple fit should give you an extra edge when attracting this fire sign. So, pull out your favorite violet garment, and wear it proudly!
- You could dress in neutral colors, then throw in one bright, lilac piece as an accent.
- If your eyes are brown or hazel, try a purple eye shadow (because this hue complements your piercing gaze!).

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Understanding Sagittarius Traits

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He’ll be fun-loving and energetic. With Sagittarius, expect an enthusiastic, silly lover of life. He’s always searching for a good time, and most days, he finds it with ease—whether it’s a pickup basketball game with strangers, a spontaneous dance off, or an unplanned trip to a theme park, fun tops Sagittarius’ list of priorities.^{[3]
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- The downside: Sag’s gas tank never seems to turn off. If you’re getting close with this fire sign, you might need to up your daily caffeine intake. Though his enthusiasm is totally infectious, some days, you might find him hard to keep up with.
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He’s charming. Go into any relationship with a Sag knowing that his winning smile, hilarious banter, and quick wit make him irresistible to basically everyone. He’s also a total social butterfly, so when he arrives at the party, everyone flocks to him in seconds. Sagittarius is a true Mr. Congeniality, and this trait can make him insanely fun to be around.
- The downside: Sagittarius also definitely has a bit of naturally flirty personality, so if you’re a jealous person, you might have a hard time dealing with envy while others fawn over him (especially if it seems like he’s egging it on).
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He’s philosophical. Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter, which means that he naturally sees the big picture. He’s probably extremely thoughtful—this trait inspires him to think about the world at large, morality, human nature, and other huge topics. So when you’re getting to know Sag, expect challenging debates, discussions, and more!
- The downside: He can’t stand it when someone feels “fake.” He craves authenticity, so he’ll hate feeling like the person across the table is putting on airs. But the truth is, being 100% real 24/7 can be hard, so this sometimes, his constant desire for having meaningful conversations can be challenging.
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He’s got a nomadic spirit. A traveler at heart, Sagittarius is always on the move. He’s the kind of person who needs new horizons, and he hates to feel tied down. If you’re looking to understand your resident Sagittarius, know that new experiences are a top priority for him—which means that traveling is his passion (and sometimes, sticking with the same routine stresses him out).
- The downside: His restlessness translates to relationships, too. Sag craves freedom, and for some of these fire signs, it takes a lot to settle down.^{[4]
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He's optimistic. Sagittarius is all about the glass half full, all the time. This sign just believes that the world is better when you try to see the bright side. This trait makes him super reassuring and exciting to be around, because he’ll naturally lift your spirits with his kindness and bright smile.^{[5]
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- The downside: Sagittarius might try to avoid heavy, emotional conversations. He’s so committed to keeping things light and sunny, sometimes this might translate to avoidance of other important topics (which, no surprise, might frustrate partners!).

Expert Q&A

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How do you know if a Sagittarius man is interested in you?

Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.

Angel Eyedealism

Astrologer & Performance Artist

Expert Answer

He's definitely interested if he's coming closer and sticking around. Sagittarius individuals constantly running away and always needing space, so it's really significant if he's trying to get closer with you.
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What do Sagittarius individuals not like?

Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.

Angel Eyedealism

Astrologer & Performance Artist

Expert Answer

Sagittarius individuals don't like feeling boxed in. The second you become controlling and demanding, they'll take off.
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Why is Sagittarius man not romantic in relationship?

wikiHow Staff Editor
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This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

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Some Sagittarius men prefer lighter, sillier relationships (instead of more serious and emotional ones). This doesn't mean that he doesn't care, but still, it's your relationship too—and you should get what you need from it. Try opening up a conversation about what you expect from him without judgment, and see what he has to say.