How to Feel Beautiful Inside and Out

Co-authored by Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP

Last Updated: December 1, 2021 References

Beauty is a word with endless meaning. Despite this, it does tend to describe a positive energy coming from within, not a state achieved by make-up and varnish. If you want others to feel that you are beautiful, you need to feel the same about yourself, both inside and out.

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Attending to outer beauty

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Have high standards of hygiene. Shower daily, use deodorant and wear clean clothes. These simple things have the power to leave you feeling good and looking your best.^{[1]
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Care for your teeth. Have good oral hygiene-brush and floss your teeth, and use mouthwash if you need to. Teeth that are well cared for will last you a lifetime.^{[2]
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Care for your hair. Your hair is one of the first things people notice about you. Keep it looking clean, neat, and shiny. Wash it every other day, or every 3 days if it's not particularly oily. Use shampoo and conditioner that work for your hair type. Brush it every day, even if you don't style it.^{[3]
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- Try out new hairstyles. Find the one that suits you best at each stage of your life.
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Look after your skin. Use a shower puff to exfoliate your body every other day in the shower. Rinse your body in cool water. Moisturize your skin after washing it, every day. Wash and moisturize your face twice a day. Use a toner if you need it, and exfoliate every other day.
- Deeply moisturize your feet regularly.^{[4]
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Wear clothes that you feel good in. Choose the clothes that feel comfortable and that you know accentuate your best features.

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Attending to both inner and outer beauty

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Realize that a healthy body presents a healthy glow. This is beautiful to behold. It also frees you up to spend more time addressing your intellectual and spiritual growth.^{[5]
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Exercise regularly. This helps you to keep fit, restores energy and releases those precious endorphins that lift your mood and improve your spirit.^{[6]
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Go to bed early. Begin giving yourself more quality sleep, during which both body and mind are restored, allowing you to wake up feeling refreshed.^{[7]
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Stretch yourself and wake up and sit on your bed with a very beautiful and confident smile. Be grateful for such a beautiful life and such a beautiful morning.^{[9]
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- Do a few yoga stretches (Surya Namaskar) to improve your blood circulation.^{[10]
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Say no to junk food today. Eat healthy and drink water instead of sodas or sugary drinks.^{[11]
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Treat yourself. After working or studying hard, you deserve a treat. Have a massage, take a walk in the woods, visit a friend you haven't seen for ages, or simply hang out at home doing absolutely nothing.

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Attending to inner beauty

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Relax. Take time everyday to have you time. Meditate, have a hot bath, read a good book just take it easy.^{[12]
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Write. If you are in a negative state of mind about yourself, write a list of good things about yourself and things that you can improve on. Also write how you can improve them and what you can then do to maintain it.^{[13]
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Love yourself. You shouldn't want to be anyone else and if you do think why.^{[14]
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- Think about the things you like about yourself and what inner beauty really means to you.^{[15]
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Face the world with a smile. Greet your neighbours, friends, newspaper boy and everyone whom you know. Smile with a gratitude to this universe for whatever you are. Say 'Thank You' with a heartfelt smile to all those who acknowledge your beauty. Help the people around you.
- Spread positivity. If you do it, hopefully everyone else will too.
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Empathise. Other people appreciate this. Try to understand what it would be like to be this person.
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Listen. However much you want to talk about your problem, a conversation is a two-way thing.^{[16]
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Be kind. This is best way to interact with others in life. Deliver it in huge amounts, and especially to the grumpiest and the saddest.
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Come home with a smile. If you've had a hard day, indulge in a relaxing bubble bath for 10 to 20 minutes. A little relaxation will put you in a good state of mind for the rest of the evening.

Expert Q&A

Question

How can I calm my mind?

Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP
Clinical Therapist & Adjunct Professor
Rebecca Tenzer is the owner and head clinician at Astute Counseling Services, a private counseling practice in Chicago, Illinois. With over 18 years of clinical and educational experience in the field of mental health, Rebecca specializes in the treatment of depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, grief, interpersonal relationships using a combination of Cognitive Behavioral therapy, Psychodynamic therapy, and other evidence-based practices. Rebecca holds a Bachelor of Arts (BA) in Sociology and Anthropology from DePauw University, a Master in Teaching (MAT) from Dominican University, and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Chicago. Rebecca has served as a member of the AmeriCorps and is also a Professor of Psychology at the collegiate level. Rebecca is trained as a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist (CBT), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), a Certified Grief Counseling Specialist (CGCS), a Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP), and a Certified Compassion Fatigue Professional (CCFP). Rebecca is also a member of the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Society of America and The National Association of Social Workers.

Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP

Clinical Therapist & Adjunct Professor

Expert Answer

Self-care is extremely important to make yourself feel good and combat mental health problems. It doesn’t have to be only expensive and time-consuming activities, though. Taking realistic amounts of time out of each day to focus on yourself can make the world of a difference.
Question

What makes a woman beautiful on the inside?

Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP
Clinical Therapist & Adjunct Professor
Rebecca Tenzer is the owner and head clinician at Astute Counseling Services, a private counseling practice in Chicago, Illinois. With over 18 years of clinical and educational experience in the field of mental health, Rebecca specializes in the treatment of depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, grief, interpersonal relationships using a combination of Cognitive Behavioral therapy, Psychodynamic therapy, and other evidence-based practices. Rebecca holds a Bachelor of Arts (BA) in Sociology and Anthropology from DePauw University, a Master in Teaching (MAT) from Dominican University, and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Chicago. Rebecca has served as a member of the AmeriCorps and is also a Professor of Psychology at the collegiate level. Rebecca is trained as a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist (CBT), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), a Certified Grief Counseling Specialist (CGCS), a Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP), and a Certified Compassion Fatigue Professional (CCFP). Rebecca is also a member of the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Society of America and The National Association of Social Workers.

Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP

Clinical Therapist & Adjunct Professor

Expert Answer

I think the important thing here is to define inner and outer beauty regarding our own thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. What is inner beauty for you? What do you think are qualities of having inner beauty? Answer these questions and maybe you'll know what makes someone beautiful on the inside.

Warnings

Stay away from smoking; it ages you and is extremely unhealthy.

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Minimize alcohol.

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