How to Be Friends Forever with Your Best Friend

Last Updated: February 23, 2023 References

You may be popular, or you may be a loner. But you have friends. More importantly, you have a best friend. Sometimes, there are times when you are annoyed, but besides that, they are some of the most important people in your life. The quality of friends matters much more than their number. If all others whom you thought were your friends will turn their backs on you, a best friend will always be there no matter what.

Steps

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Communicate with your best friend. Frequent communication is essential to deepening your friendship. Making sure that they feel loved and supported will help you remain friends with them. Let them know about your day and random facts about yourself. Listen to them when they speak, and respond with an appropriate amount of enthusiasm so that they feel happy.
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Plan activities together. Spending time with your friend is important, as it reminds them that they're loved. Share fun moments with them. Send them invitations to different outings, such as the movies or to a sleepover.^{[1]
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Share your secrets with them.^{[3]
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Research source} Allowing you into your life will make them feel special. As your best friend, they will want to know about you as much as possible. By opening up to them, they will understand that you trust them and want them in your life. If they shares secrets with you, be a good friend and keep them to yourself.^{[4]
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Research source} Although you might be tempted to share them with others, don't break the trust put in you.
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Keep in touch. When you are apart, show that you are thinking about them by calling, emailing, or texting them. Sending a short, simple message can do the trick.^{[5]
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Create nicknames. Giving them a special name will strengthen your bond with them. Be sure that they don't, however, feel embarrassed or hurt by the name; if they feel you're making fun of them, it could throw a wrench in your friendship. Have inside jokes with each other.
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Support their obsessions. Every person is made unique by their likes and dislikes. Even if you may not love their television shows or favorite celebrities, show that you love and support them by listening when they talk about them. You could also purchase gifts related to their likes, such as a shirt of a favorite band.
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Avoid obstacles in your friendship. In order to ensure that you both remain friends for a long time, don't allow menial situations or differences to separate you both. It doesn't matter that she's got the same shirt or pair of boots as you. Why should you care if he isn't a fan of the band you love? Your similarities and differences with them should not cause a tear in your friendship.
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Respect them. Above all, respect your friend, their space and their choices. You're not the boss of them and neither they of you. Enjoy everything together for as long as it lasts.^{[6]
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- Look at your friendship as at the most precious of resources that will hopefully be giving to you as much as you're giving to it.

Expert Q&A

Question

How do you reconnect with your old best friend?

Adam Dorsay, PsyD
Licensed Psychologist & TEDx Speaker
Dr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist in private practice in San Jose, CA, and the co-creator of Project Reciprocity, an international program at Facebook's Headquarters, and a consultant with Digital Ocean’s Safety Team. He specializes in assisting high-achieving adults with relationship issues, stress reduction, anxiety, and attaining more happiness in their lives. In 2016 he gave a well-watched TEDx talk about men and emotions. Dr. Dorsay has a M.A. in Counseling from Santa Clara University and received his doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2008.

Adam Dorsay, PsyD

Licensed Psychologist & TEDx Speaker

Expert Answer

Don't overthink it. Just call them. Don't think that you need a specific reason, like their birthday or a question about business. Just make a phone call, let them know you are thinking about them, and bring up some funny memory related to positive feelings. People may forget what you did or said, but they will remember how they felt when they were with you.
Question

If I feel like sisters with my friend, why do I have to tell other people?

Community Answer

If you don't feel comfortable saying about the relationship about you and your friend you don't need to say it. If they question you, say something like "we are very good friends". That way, you can avoid telling people how you really feel about the friendship.
Question

What should I do If I consider someone as my best friend but she considers someone else as her best friend?

Community Answer

Don't focus on this as "best friend" is just a title. If you have a close friend that really cares about you as a person, and you enjoy spending time together, that's what matters.

Warnings

Don't quarrel over stupid things.

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You can die from laughter because of a best friend.

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There are going to be way too many inside jokes for you to handle.

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You'll start calling each other strange nicknames like Milkshake, Cheesecharger, Gerba, Gamma and Chica.

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