How to Be Positive All the Time

Co-authored by Julia Lyubchenko, MS, MA and Jessica Gibson

Last Updated: October 26, 2022 References Approved

Have you ever found yourself around someone who can always find the good in things? If you wish you could be a more optimistic person and stay positive when it isn’t easy, realize that there are small steps you can take to make a big change in your thinking. By targeting and reframing the negative thoughts you may have about yourself, you'll create a positive mindset.^{[1]
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Expert Interview. 29 April 2020.} This positive outlook can improve the way you deal with painful or negative situations.

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Changing Your Mindset

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Recite positive affirmations. Every day, remember things that you admire and respect about yourself. Over time, you'll begin feeling positive about yourself because of these self-affirmations, positive statements that help you feel encouraged. Self-affirmations can also make you more compassionate and caring towards yourself, combating any negative thoughts you may have.^{[2]
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- I am capable and equipped to get things done today.
- I have the power to overcome this bad circumstance and turn this around.
- I am a strong and resourceful person, and I can keep going.
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Write down your positive traits. Use your positive affirmations to make a list of qualities that you appreciative. Ask yourself what you enjoy about yourself most and write these down.^{[3]
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- Use your list to remind yourself of all of your positive qualities. You may want to read them every day so these positive thoughts about yourself really sink in.
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Do something you love. It's easy to fall into the trap of negative thinking when you don't enjoy what you're doing. Maybe you're overwhelmed by work or your home life. Take some time out of your day to do something that brings you joy. It can be as simple as having a coffee break with a friend or soaking in the tub at the end of the day.
- Studies have shown that doing something that makes you smile can actually help you alleviate pain.^{[5]
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Recognize the importance of confidence and gratitude.^{[6]
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Expert Interview. 29 April 2020.} Building confidence and self-esteem can be thought of as a form of positive thinking about yourself. Studies have shown that feeling grateful can give you a sense of well-being and increase your own feelings of self-esteem.^{[7]
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- Feelings of gratefulness have also been linked to higher levels of empathy, which help you feel more connected to others.^{[10]
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Practicing a Positive Lifestyle

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Do mindful meditation. Instead of meditating to clear your mind, focus on being present in the moment and fully aware of your experiences.^{[11]
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Expert Interview. 29 April 2020.} This will sharpen your mentality and make you feel prepared, both of which can help you stay positive.^{[13]
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- Researchers have shown that mindfulness can reduce stress. This improves positive thinking by decreasing anxiety, low mood, and low energy associated with stress.^{[15]
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Practice deep breathing. Begin focusing on your breaths. Notice how you feel emotionally and physically as you inhale and exhale. Make yourself focus on what is going on around you.^{[16]
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- Deep breathing is a good way to revisit what consumed most of your thoughts and influenced your feelings throughout the day.
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Do Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Consider working with a therapist trained in CBT. This therapy can help you change your current ways of thinking.^{[18]
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Go to source} Since thoughts strongly influence your outlook, begin to change your negative thoughts into positive ones. To do this, you'll need to start noticing your thoughts. Stop yourself when you begin to think a negative thought and reframe it to become positive. For example, if you're stuck waiting for a bus, appreciate the time you have to unwind or have a conversation with someone else waiting for the bus.^{[19]
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- It can be helpful to write down these thoughts in order to help you reframe them. For example, you might write down a negative thought (like disliking driving in the rain) to something positive (like getting more practice driving in the rain).
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Write down your goals. Part of being positive is feeling hopeful about the future. Setting goals is a good way to focus on the future. You'll also benefit from a boost in self-esteem when you achieve goals. To improve your chances of successfully meeting goals, make sure the goals are:^{[20]
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Have realistic expectations. While being positive all the time may sound like a great idea, you need to be realistic with yourself. There will be times in your life when you simply won't feel positive. In fact, situations may come up that make you legitimately sad or angry. However, you can use a positive outlook to deal with painful emotions and give yourself a sense of hope or acceptance.
- For example, if you just lost a loved pet, you'll probably feel sad or upset. You can still use positive thinking to remind yourself what you have to appreciate, like the time you had with your pet. Or, you can use positivity to remind yourself that this painful time will pass.

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How do I train myself to be more positive?

Julia Lyubchenko, MS, MA
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Julia Lyubchenko is an Adult Counselor and a Hypnotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Running a practice called Therapy Under Hypnosis, Julia has over eight years of counseling and therapy experience, specializing in resolving emotional and behavioral problems. She has a Certificate in Clinical Hypnosis from the Bosurgi Method School and is certified in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy. She earned an MA in Counseling Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy from Alliant International University and an MSc in Developmental and Child Psychology from Moscow State University.

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Adult Counselor & Certified Hypnotherapist

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Understand that, naturally, the mind is more focused on negative things due to our survival instincts. Try to train your mind to consciously recognize nice things that are happening. This can include noticing nice weather or recognizing when a person was nice to you. You can also try to avoid focusing on things which you cannot control. Every time this happens, make an effort to switch your mind to anything which is within your control.