If a woman has the wrong impression of you, you can change her mind about you by showing her the person you truly are. Be a great listener and do thoughtful things for her. If you're hoping to have a romantic relationship, express your feelings for her. You might find that you can change her mind just by improving communication.

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Be honest with her about your feelings.

  1. Don't pretend or ignore how you feel about her. It's obviously important to you that this woman think better of you, so don't hide how you feel. If you're interested in a romantic relationship, be open with her instead of just staying friends and hoping that she'll become attracted to you.[7]
    • For example, you could say, "I realize we haven't known each other very long and you might not think of me in this way, but I really like you and I'm hoping we could be more than just friends."
    • Plus, a platonic friendship should be based on trust and respect. It's dishonest to simply be friends in the hopes she'll become your girlfriend.
    • The key is to be truthful—don't tell her what you think she wants to hear or she'll think you're not authentic. Besides, you want her to like you for who you are.
6

Listen to what she has to say without interrupting.

  1. If you're trying to change her mind, you might just listen for what you want to hear. Keep an open mind when you talk with her and ask her questions so you completely understand what she thinks and how she feels.[8] Active listening is a great way to make a connection with someone, especially if you know she thinks you're rude and don't listen to people.[9]
    • For instance, show her that you're listening by saying something like, "It sounds like you've been through a pretty bad breakup and that your ex didn't really appreciate you."
    • Make eye contact and mirror some of her gestures to create an unconscious connection with her.[10] Just remember to look away occasionally so you're not being too intense with a direct gaze.
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Keep your body language open and confident.

  1. Show her that you feel comfortable in your own skin and easy to approach. Instead of hunching forward and making yourself seem small, push your chest out and pull your shoulders back. Stand straight and tall so you have a big presence. Keep your arms at your sides instead of crossing them so you don't look standoffish.[11]
    • Confidence is contagious—if you want to change her mind, show her that you believe in yourself and that you value yourself.
    • Don't forget to read her nonverbal cues. If she's open and receptive to what you're saying, she'll probably have her arms open instead of crossed and she'll make eye contact. If she's not into what you're saying, she'll probably glance away and keep her arms crossed in front of her.
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Don't nag or harass her to change her mind.

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    Where can I meet a new woman?
    John Keegan
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    You can meet a new woman anywhere and everywhere. Be open to it every day of your life. There are a lot of attractive people around you. For example, you may find them at the supermarket, bookstore, or in a subway car.
  • Question
    How do you introduce yourself to a woman?
    John Keegan
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    If you want to introduce yourself to someone, you should not enter their life abruptly. Give them enough space and distance. You can make eye contact with them and say hello in a soft tone. Let them feel safe and then open up. Offer a direct compliment or start a conversation with something in the situation. For example, if you are shopping for fruits and vegetables, you can say that you are moving to all-organic and ask them if they are doing the same.
  • Question
    How do I change a woman's mind about me if she spends time with me, but is also spending time with someone else?
    Community Answer
    Community Answer
    Tell her how you feel. Let her know that you have serious feelings for her and you want to be in an exclusive relationship. If she needs time to think about it, give her that time. If she says she's not interested in a relationship with you, let her go and find somebody who is.

Warnings

  • Never think that you can change a woman's mind by being physically or verbally aggressive. Intimidation, threatening, and bullying are abusive.
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References

  1. https://practicalpie.com/how-to-get-a-girl-to-like-you/
  2. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
  3. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/240750838_On_the_role_of_humor_appreciation_in_interpersonal_attraction_It%27s_no_joking_matter
  4. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evidence-based-living/201611/proven-ways-change-someones-mind
  5. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
  6. https://practicalpie.com/how-to-get-a-girl-to-like-you/
  7. Patti Novak Williams. Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 12 January 2021.
  8. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
  9. Patti Novak Williams. Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 12 January 2021.

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To change a woman’s mind about you when you’re in the friend zone, wait for a quiet time to talk to her so you’re both relaxed and won’t be distracted. Then, tell her that you like her and you want to start a romantic relationship. This might be a lot for her to take in so give her time if she needs to think about it. If she says no, try not to take it personally, since there are plenty of other women who will be better for you. For more tips, including how to try to understand what a woman thinks about you, read on!

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