How to Look Sexy when Naked

Co-authored by Rachel Eddins, M.Ed., LPC-S

Last Updated: September 13, 2022 References

Looking sexy while naked can feel like a challenge, but it is definitely within reach no matter what your body type is. It is very common to feel self-conscious, and you are not alone in that feeling. You may already have a beautiful body, but not feel as confident as you’d like to when unclothed. There are plenty of ways to begin to feel sexy. Some of the ways are simple and some require more time and effort. To feel sexy while naked you can show of your body in a sexy way, work on your confidence, or you can work on improving your overall health.

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Showing Off Your Body

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Choose flattering lighting. The right lighting can enhance the mood and improve your confidence. Aim for soft, dim lighting. This kind of lighting softens your features and many photographers recommend it for looking your best. This type of lighting can be achieved by low overhead lighting or turning on only one lamp in the room. You can also create flattering light by lighting candles.^{[1]
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- Something else you can do is swap out your regular light bulbs for bulbs with red or pink hues.
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Pose in a flattering angle while standing up. Instead of posing straight on, try posing at a ¾ angle. This angle will play up the curves and angles of your body. Along with standing at an angle, you should pose asymmetrically. For example, bend on knee or place on hand on your hip.^{[2]
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- Choose a pose that feels comfortable and natural to you, as this will often translate to a sexy look. Trying to pose yourself too much can make you look stilted or awkward.
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Find a sexy pose while laying down. If you want to accentuate your curves, lie down on your side. This position will show off your waist and hips. To show off your muscles, prop yourself on your elbows. Propping yourself off will tense your muscles more than laying flat will.^{[3]
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Try contouring. First, you will need to exfoliate while in the shower. You can use a loofah or exfoliating product. Then, use a self-tanner and apply it to areas of your body that you would like to accentuate or make to look leaner. For example, apply tanner along your abdomen if you want to show off your muscles. Or, apply the tanner along the sides of your waist and inner thighs to create a shadow. You can also use bronzer or darker foundation to contour, but it will rub off easily and may stain the sheets.^{[4]
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Put on a lotion that flatters your skin. The right lotion can blend imperfections and make your skin glow. A shimmery lotion is good for making your skin glow. A tinted lotion is best for blending in sun spots and rashes. If blemishes are a concern, you can use foundation to blend imperfections in with your natural skin tone.^{[5]
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- Make sure to test the product or ask about it if you have sensitive skin.
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Keep on a few accessories. Leaving on a few accessories is sexy and can help you feel more confident while naked. Leave on a few pieces of jewelry if you wear any—like earrings or a necklace. You can also leave on a tie or bowtie. If you wear high heels, keep them on because they make your legs look longer and engage your muscles.^{[6]
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Feeling Confident about Your Body

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Get comfortable with being naked. To feel sexy, it’s important to feel comfortable naked. Try walking around your home naked with the shades drawn to feel more relaxed without clothes on. Sleep naked so you can feel comfortable with no clothes on in bed. Don’t worry if you feel uncomfortable at first. Let your worries out so that you can start to enjoy being naked.
- It will help your comfort if you’re in a familiar setting. If you’re home alone, try being naked in your favorite spot of your home.
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Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s easy to compare yourself to others when you see advertisements filled with people that have great bodies—many of them photoshopped. Do not get caught in that web of comparison. There isn’t an ideal body. That type of thinking is harmful to your mental state. Instead, celebrate the fact that there are so many types of bodies and enjoy the body you have.^{[7]
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Put yourself in a sexy mindset. A good way to start putting yourself in a sexy mindset is to hold yourself with confidence. Stand up straight. Move with confidence and act flirtatiously. Then, think back to a moment where you felt sexy and/or confident. It may be when a partner complimented your appearance, or when you did a great job at work. Keep that moment in mind and let it affect your energy.^{[8]
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Think about the parts of your body that you love. Everyone’s body is unique. Consider the parts of your body that you love or find sexy. You may love the way the muscles in your shoulders look, or you may have always felt confident about your legs. Try to focus on these parts of your body when you are naked.^{[9]
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- You may find your lower back sexy. You could then position yourself so your lower back is visible, and you can show off this part of your back.
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Embrace your flaws. Your perceived flaws might be keeping you from feeling sexy without your clothes on. Instead of feeling bad about what you see as flaws, think of how they could be perceived as sexy. You may feel insecure about scars, stretch marks, or cellulite, but there are plenty of people that would find them sexy. Any time you start to feel bad about your flaws, change your thinking to embrace them as sexy.^{[10]
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Let your partner touch you. It sounds like a simple thing, but it can sometimes feel uncomfortable to be touched on the parts of your body you feel insecure about. If you have a partner, don’t shy away from them touching you. Allow them to caress and massage your body.^{[11]
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- It’s okay if you don’t want to be touched in certain areas. If you try it and feel too uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to ask them to stop.
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Work on your overall self-esteem. Another way you can look sexy is to maintain a confident attitude. Having high self-esteem and confidence will be attractive and sexy to others. Focus on maintaining good self-esteem and having a healthy amount of self-confidence. Embrace and celebrate who you are so you can be sexy from the inside out.^{[12]
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- Focus on achieving your goals and doing things that you love or enjoy.
- Be with a partner who celebrates who you are and helps you feel good about yourself.

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Improving Your Overall Health

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Review your diet. If you feel that you would feel sexier by making changes to your body, begin by reviewing your diet. A poor diet can not only contribute to an undesirable weight, but it can also affect your energy and mood. If you find that your diet consists of food that does not benefit your body, begin to make changes. Reduce your sugar intake, and try to eliminate processed foods. Make sure that you get your recommended daily intake of fruits, vegetables, grains, etc.
- Changing your diet doesn’t have to mean eliminating all of the food you love. Instead of having a chocolate bar every day, reserve a special day or two to eat one.
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Find an enjoyable physical activity. Exercising is great for your mood as well as your body. Exercising is important even if you don’t want a dramatic weight loss. Look for a physical activity that you enjoy. Try running, dancing, tennis, or swimming. Do that activity at least twice a week if possible.^{[13]
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- You can make the activity fun by doing it with a partner.
- Participating in sports or activities with others that move your body can help you improve your body image and appreciate what your body does for you. The more you use and appreciate your body, the more comfortable you will be with it.
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Do a quick workout before disrobing. Do a quick workout in the morning or hour before you will be naked. This will temporarily tone your body. Go on a quick run, do a set of weights, or do a set of lunges and pushups.^{[14]
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Take time out of your day for self-care. A happy, healthy mindset will help you feel sexy and confident. If possible, take a few minutes out of every day for self-care. If that’s not possible, set aside an hour a week. You can take a warm bath with scented oils, try out a face mask, or work on meditation. Do whatever makes you feel calm and happy.^{[15]
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Community Q&A

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What if I have wide hips?

Community Answer

People find those attractive, so if you feel okay with it, flaunt it!
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I look awful with no makeup on my face. I'm worried about what my boyfriend will think when I sleep over and he sees me. What do I do?

Community Answer

This is all in your head, don't worry about it. You don't look awful with no makeup on, you're just insecure. Your boyfriend will just be happy you slept over, and happy to see you in the morning. If he isn't, dump him.
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Can I still look sexy if I have self-harm scars?

Community Answer

Yes, absolutely. Those scars are a testament to the struggles you have faced and overcome in the past, so you should let them serve as a reminder of how strong you are. Embrace them as part of your quest to become a more resilient, confident, sexy person.

Warnings

You shouldn’t practice unhealthy habits to feel more confident about your body. If you feel that you are headed in an unhealthy direction, seek help from a medical professional.

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