How to Love Your Grandparents

Last Updated: April 8, 2021

Your bond with your grandparents is a very special bond that you'll cherish even after they're gone. They are great source of unconditional love, they'll talk to you when you're feeling down, they're always ready to help you, they'll let you come over when you feel like taking a break from your family, and they'll usually even spoil you a little.

Steps

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Always show respect for your grandparents. Don't get upset if they say no. Usually you'll get a yes from them, but sometimes they have to say no. They want to pamper you, but sometimes they just can't. Don't argue with them and never say rude things to them.
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Ask them how they are and listen; show concern for them. Grandparents have feelings too, and you can make them feel great just by caring about them. Remember their birthdays and other special days. Give them a card, you can make the card or buy one.^{[1]
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Talk to your grandparents regularly. Tell them what's going on in your life, and find out what's going on in their lives. This is how you get closer to them and make a stronger bond.
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Listen to their advice and experiences. Your grandparents have been around a long time. They've learned a lot. Sometimes they've learned the hard way, and their experiences can help you avoid the mistakes they made when they were young.
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Pay attention to what's going on with them, at their age they may need a helping hand from time to time. Don't wait to be asked, just help. They might not feel comfortable about asking for help.
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Express gratitude when your grandparents do something for you by talking to them and telling them how much you appreciate them. Give them a hug too, grandparents love that.^{[2]
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Do a fun activity together. This can be going out somewhere, playing a game, helping them cook, learning about a hobby they like, or sharing a hobby you like. It's fun to surprise them sometimes too, maybe you can make a card when they aren't expecting it, just because you love them. This will make them very happy. You can even send a card in the mail.^{[3]
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Share your feelings and concerns with them. Tell them about problems you're having. They love you and have a lot of experience to help get you through the hard times and make the right decisions.
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Think about what your grandparents say to you. Show them you're grateful to them for their good advice. When something goes right because you followed their advice, call them and tell them about it. They want to know if you're alright.

Community Q&A

Question

My parents fight with my grandparents. What should I do?

Community Answer

Stay out of it. Don't pick a side. My mom and my grandma are going through things right now too. The best and only thing you can do is stay out of it and hope they make up.
Question

I will be at a reunion with my widower grandpa. How do I avoid talking about my grandma so I don't trigger sadness?

Community Answer

Your grandpa will already be thinking of her and how he wishes she could be there. There's no need to avoid talking about her, in fact just the opposite is true. Do talk about her. Ask what some of his favorite memories are, ask about what things drove him mad and what things he loved. Ask what foods she used to make that he loved or hated and pretended to like! There are all kinds of memories that I'm certain he'd love to share with you, and by telling them it's like reliving them. It will make him happy, even if it's a bit bittersweet.
Question

What should I write in a letter if I was mean to my grandparents?

Community Answer

Tell your grandparents sorry and tell them all of the things that they have done for you. Remember you can always go to them for help.

Warnings

When you're visiting, don't whine and say you're bored and want to leave. This hurts them.

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Never say mean things to them if they don't give you your way. When they say no, there's a reason. Maybe they just don't have the money to get you that toy.

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Never ignore them or walk away from them when they're talking to you.

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