How to Love a Scorpio Man

Last Updated: March 17, 2023 References

Compared to other Zodiac signs, Scorpios are some of the most intense personality types—Scorpio men are emotional, mysterious, and loyal. If you're in a relationship with a Scorpio man, you're in for a passionate and intimate relationship. Dating a Scorpio man can be very rewarding, especially if you know how a Scorpio thinks and can work with their strengths and weaknesses. Learn how a Scorpio best receives affection and what to do during emotional conflicts to develop a loving long-term relationship.

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Understanding Your Scorpio Partner

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Expect a passionate lover when dating a Scorpio. Scorpio men are devoted and, while they may not wear their feelings on their sleeves, they certainly express strong emotions in their romantic relationships. When a Scorpio is in a relationship, they use their natural ambition to develop a strong, intense relationship.^{[1]
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- Sometimes Scorpios can be a little clinging. If you want some space, let your partner know! They'll understand your need for alone time.
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Date a Scorpio if you're in for a long-term relationship. Scorpio men develop strong attachments with their partners, and his feelings are hard to change once he develops them. When a Scorpio man loves, they love for months or years—maybe even the better part of their life. If you want to date a Scorpio, prepare for a long, fulfilling relationship.^{[2]
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Ask your Scorpio partner about their special interests. For a Scorpio, a thirst for understanding comes easy. Scorpio men love to learn new things or cultivating more knowledge about their favorite subjects. Engage in topics he enjoys with him and introduce him to new, interesting subjects.^{[3]
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- If your Scorpio is an astronomer, for example, you might go with him to his favorite museum. Or if he's a hairdresser, you could ask him what he thinks about a popular hairstyle.
- Scorpios are often interested in deep questions, like the meaning of existence or what happens to a person after death.^{[4]
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Recognize the value Scorpio men give to authenticity. Scorpios are attracted to people who they can trust and who reveal their true selves. Show them that you are trustworthy and solid.^{[5]
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Astrologer & Performance Artist
Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.}Be honest with them, and they will return that honesty with you.^{[6]
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- Don't mask your emotions around a Scorpio, especially about important topics.
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Watch for a Scorpio's weaknesses: stubbornness, jealousy, moodiness, and spite. When a Scorpio is at their worst, they may act brooding and have a hard time trusting others.^{[7]
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Angel Eyedealism
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Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} They can also become possessive of their partner and are prone to jealous moments. Think about your Scorpio's personality flaws and decide whether they are compatible with your own strengths and weaknesses.^{[8]
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- Character flaws, horoscope-based or otherwise, do not excuse abusive behavior. If you think you might be in an abusive relationship with your partner, get help immediately.
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Check whether your sign is traditionally compatible with Scorpios. Although any two committed people can form a healthy relationship if they want it, astrological tradition states that some signs partner better with Scorpios than others. Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn, and Pisces are thought to click best with Scorpios. Leo and Aquarius may not understand Scorpios as well.^{[9]
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- Don't break up with your partner just because your signs don't align as well. With a little work, you two can still have a meaningful relationship.

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Strengthening Your Romantic Relationship

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Engage in intellectual discussions or debates with your Scorpio partner. Scorpio men appreciate a partner with a sharp intellect and confident opinions. If your Scorpio partner is interested in an academic, political, or other topic, ask them about it. Listen to their opinion, then share your own (whether you agree with them entirely or not).^{[10]
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- You might say, for example, "So I noticed you're part of our school's environmental club. What got you into that?"
- Avoid discussing controversial topics until you've gotten to know him and can avoid offending him.
- Scorpios tend to hold strong opinions. Don't be offended if he's a passionate debater. He's not trying to offend you but is just explaining his perspective.
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Draw out your Scorpio's sensitive side. Scorpios tend to be elusive with their true emotions but, if you can make your Scorpio man feel safe, he may open up to you about his feelings. Listen to him as he reveals this part of himself to help him feel loved.^{[11]
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- Try not to get overly-sappy. Scorpios tend to dislike sentimentality.
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Support your Scorpio partner in his goals. Scorpio men are very ambitious and love to feel like their partner has their back. Ask your Scorpio about his goals and how you can support him. When he accomplishes one of his goals, congratulate him to show that you care.^{[12]
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- Although you don't have to fall into the role of "personal cheerleader," Scorpios do not mesh well with partners who hold them back from their dreams.
- Give your Scorpio space while he's working on an important project. Scorpios may be intense but, when it comes to their passion projects, they need alone time.
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Plan outdoor dates with your Scorpio partner. Scorpio men love spending time outside, especially with the people they love. Spend a weekend or afternoon for an outdoor getaway with your Scorpio as your schedules allow.^{[13]
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- As a fixed water sign, Scorpios love water sports like wakeboarding, fishing, sailing, or water skiing.
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Make time for emotional and physical intimacy with your Scorpio. True intimacy is something that takes time with a Scorpio, but it is rewarding for both when it's established. Spend time with your Scorpio often to develop both elements of that connection.^{[14]
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- Don't rush into physical intimacy with your Scorpio man until you're both ready. Having deep conversations with him and building mutual trust is just as vital as kissing or cuddling.
- Scorpios are usually open about their sexual interests. Use your time dating a Scorpio man to explore your sexuality.^{[15]
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Handling Emotional Conflicts

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Share your feelings and perspective during an argument. If a Scorpio knows what's on your mind, they're much more likely to calm down and reach a compromise. Although Scorpios are intuitive, they are not psychic. Let your Scorpio know what's on your mind, and listen to them when they open up to you.^{[16]
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- You could say, for example, "When you said that you don't like my dog, it hurt my feelings. My dog means a lot to me, and I guess I felt kind of offended when you insulted her."
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Tell your Scorpio when he's being too possessive. When a Scorpio man is in love, he may become overprotective of his lover when he's concerned or jealous when he feels insecure.Talk to your Scorpio if you feel smothered to gain more personal space and independence.^{[17]
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- Be kind when pointing this tendency out to your Scorpio. Usually, his heart is in the right place and he might not even know what he's doing.
- You may say, for example, "I know that you're worried about me taking the night bus home, but I promise you that I'm safe. This is something I've done many times before. How about I call you when I get home?"
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Offer tactful criticism to your Scorpio partner. Even if they have a cool outer shell, Scorpios are sensitive at heart. Harsh criticism can hurt your Scorpio's feelings and damage any trust between you and him. Make sure you offer constructive criticism and pair each critical comment with a compliment.^{[18]
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- You could say, for example, "So today when we were talking with my friend, she said she felt like you were a little standoffish. I know that you didn't mean it because you have such a good heart, but sometimes you can seem a little aloof."
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Tell your Scorpio partner when they're pushing your boundaries. Scorpio men and women both like to be dominant in their relationships, especially when arguing. If your Scorpio partner is too dominant for your liking, tell them that you value independence and focus on building a balanced relationship.
- At the same time, don't try to win every disagreement with your Scorpio. Focus more on understanding his perspective and coming to a compromise than shutting down his wants.
- You might say, for example, "Hey, I know that you want to spend the entire weekend together, but I need some 'me time' tonight. If you could respect that and go out with some friends or family tonight instead, I would appreciate it."

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How do you handle a Scorpio?

Jessica Lanyadoo
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Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

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Scorpios are generally misunderstood because they're very emotional and they can get attached quite easily. This doesn't mean that they're insincere, or melodramatic. It means that when they experience emotions, their emotions are intense. Try to compliment a Scorpio. They tend to really value compliments. It's also extremely important that you give a Scorpio their privacy. They tend to be quite private.

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Scorpio may be emotional, but they don't enjoy dealing with other people's emotions. If you heap emotions onto them, they'll lash out.

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Remember: not every Scorpio is alike. There is more to a person's identity than their zodiac sign. While you might use the typical Scorpio characteristics as guidelines while dating your Scorpio, get to know him and adjust how you treat him based on his personality.

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Never, under any circumstances, betray, manipulate, shame, or otherwise hurt Scorpio. Although it varies, Scorpio almost never handles emotional pain in a peaceful or constructive way.

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