How to Sexually Attract a Pisces Man

Co-authored by John Keegan and Amber Crain

Last Updated: September 7, 2022 References

Sensitive Pisces men are the hopeless romantics of the zodiac. They make wonderful lovers, but they need an emotional connection with you before they'll move things into the bedroom. In this article, we'll tell you everything you need to know to get a fish to fall for you—hook, line, and sinker. We'll also give you the scoop on how to turn on a Pisces and what you can expect in bed with this dreamy water sign.

1

Wear a spicy floral perfume.

Pisces are very in touch with their sense of smell. On their lovers, they prefer exotic flowers (think jasmine or iris) over fresh floral scents (like rose and geranium). And the spicy undertone is key to drive a Pisces man absolutely wild. Go with something classic like sandalwood, amber, or patchouli.^{[1]
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- If you aren’t familiar with perfume notes, most fragrance brands list the main notes on the packaging. You can also look the information up online.

2

Make the first move.

He’ll need a prompt from you before taking things to the bedroom. Yes, Pisces men can be a bit timid initially, but you won’t have to do anything drastic—a well-timed glance or leaning in to whisper “Take me home” is all this shy guy needs. You can try:
- Taking him by the hand and pulling him into your bedroom.
- Giving him a soft kiss on the neck and ear.
- Saying something cute like, “Why are we wearing so many clothes?!”

3

Seduce him with eye contact.

The intimacy of that simple gesture will turn on a Pisces. Pisces can be a little shy and eye contact doesn’t come naturally to them. They need the other person to take the lead and lock eyes with them first.^{[2]
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John Keegan
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} If there's chemistry, you’ll experience a jolt of it immediately—and he will, too. He’ll be hooked after that.
- If you catch your Pisces guy stealing glances at you, or if he locks eyes with you as soon as you walk into the room, he’s already crushing on you hard.^{[3]
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Speak gently and kindly.

Pisces are sensitive and easily hurt, so show him he has nothing to fear. Because of their sensitive natures, Pisces men struggle with mood swings and self-esteem issues. They don’t like sarcastic remarks or being teased (even if it’s obvious you’re kidding). Always treat him gently and speak to him with kindness.^{[4]
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- If you want to sexually attract a Pisces, this is your first priority. Pisces men are drawn to partners who truly understand their sensitive side.
- A Pisces man pays attention to how you treat other people, too. He'll be turned off immediately if you act rude or condescending to someone in front of him.

5

Compliment his looks.

Boosting his ego can get a Pisces man in the mood. Men born under this sign appreciate kind words more than most people. You can compliment him on anything you’d like as long as you’re not stroking his ego in a super obvious way.^{[5]
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John Keegan
Dating Coach
Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} His smile, sense of style, personality, voice...he’ll love any compliment you give him. You might say something like:
- "You look amazing in that shirt. It brings out the gold flecks in your eyes."
- "I love your smile so much. Can I see it again?"
- "You're such a stylish dresser. You look amazing every time I see you."

6

Share your sexual fantasies.

A Pisces guy wants to know you on a deep level before getting intimate. If you want to fast-track physical intimacy, open up to your man about your sexual thoughts, feelings, and dreams. The romantic Pisces will be drawn to your willingness to share your inner world and sexual fantasies with him. You might say something like:
- "I've always been fascinated by the idea of lucid dreaming. Care to meet me on the astral plane one night for a sexy romp?"
- "So I've always been interested in trying a bit of role play in the bedroom. You game?"

7

Smile and be positive.

Pisces needs to feel safe and secure before sleeping with you. Since he experiences emotions so deeply, interacting with pessimists is exhausting for your Pisces. When you’re around him, always look on the bright side of every situation.^{[6]
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John Keegan
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} Give him your best "come hither" smile and keep the conversation lighthearted. Sex will never be in the cards if he’s feeling cynical or negative around you.
- If you get stuck in traffic and miss your dinner reservation, just smile and say, "Oh well! Do you wanna get fast food and have a picnic in the park instead? It'll be a lot more private."
- "I'm sad the concert is sold out, but I'm more in the mood to snuggle anyway. Wanna go back to your place and see what's on Netflix?"

8

Shower him with physical affection.

Pisces crave positive reinforcement in the form of kisses and cuddles. Physical affection is very important to a Pisces, so don’t hold back in that department. Take every opportunity to pet him, touch his arm, smooch his cheek, hug, and cuddle up to him. That feeling of closeness will get him in the mood for some sexier affection behind closed doors.

9

Tell him how you feel about him.

For a Pisces guy, hearing about your feelings is basically foreplay. Men born under this sign usually won’t have sex with someone unless they have an emotional connection. If you’re looking to get frisky any time soon, you’ll need to start by showing him your naked emotions. Don't worry, he’ll be ready to see your naked body soon after! You might say:
- "I feel an intense, spiritual connection with you. Do you feel it, too?"
- "Getting to know you over the past few weeks has been one of the happiest times of my life. I feel so lucky to have met you."
- "I think I’m falling in love with you, Max. I can’t imagine life without you."
- "Not going to lie—you look hot tonight and I can't stop thinking about kissing you."

10

Be vocal when things get hot and heavy.

Pisces men love to hear how turned on you are. If you aren’t comfortable with dirty talk, no problem (although he’ll certainly appreciate hearing that, too). Pretty much any sound that comes from you will drive him wild—low moans, gasps, and breathy kisses close to his ear (to name just a few).

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Invite him into the shower or tub with you.

As a water sign, your Pisces is very stimulated by wet environments. Being around water amplifies feelings and experiences for the fish of the zodiac. In this case, getting frisky in a shower or bathtub will supercharge your man's libido. If you're ready to see what your Pisces is really capable of, give this a try!^{[7]
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Expert Q&A

Question

How can I communicate effectively with a shy person?

John Keegan
Dating Coach
John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.

John Keegan

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

You can communicate effectively with a shy person by making eye contact and giving a lot of physical touches. It can help build their confidence.
Question

What sort of compliments do men appreciate?

John Keegan
Dating Coach
John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.

John Keegan

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Men like to get compliments for having a great style, being eloquent, having great ideas, or being a good listener.