How to Tease a Girl for Not Texting Back: What to Say When She Ghosts You

Co-authored by Imad Jbara and Hunter Rising

Last Updated: February 2, 2022 References

You’re texting back and forth with a girl you’re into when suddenly she stops responding. While it’s easy to assume the worst, she might just be busy or away from her phone. If you still want an easy way to follow up, sending a teasing text can be playful without sounding too pushy. To help you out, we’ve put together a list of example messages you can use to playfully tease a girl over text when she’s not replying.

1

“Wow, did I really leave you speechless?”

Comment on the silence to draw her attention to it. Instead of making her feel bad for not replying, mention something silly about what you said. That way, you make light of the situation rather than sounding like you’re upset about it.
- “I must have taken the words out of your mouth!”
- “It’s okay, I wouldn’t know how to respond to me either haha”

2

“It’s okay if you didn’t laugh, I’m usually funnier than that.”

Making fun of yourself makes your teasing sound less harsh. This is a good idea if you read the last text you sent and realize the girl didn’t have a lot to work with. Instead of teasing her about not replying, joke around and blame yourself for stalling the convo. She might have just been confused about what to say, or she could have been waiting for a different topic.
- “You can admit it. Even I know that was a boring text to reply to 😛”
- “LOL I expected you to reply to that?? We can move on if you want to.”

3

“I hope you’re typing out an essay over there!”

She’ll get that you’re excited to chat with her and learn more. Joke around about what you expect from her message since it’s taken so long for her to write. Even though you don’t really want a really long reply, you hint that you’re still ready to have a quality conversation with her.^{[1]
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- “Your thumbs must be tired from writing such a long reply!”
- “Wow, I can’t wait to read the novel you’re about to send me 😝”

4

“Whoa slow down, I can’t read that fast! 😛”

A little sass will make her laugh and show off your sense of humor. If you want a speedy reply, poke fun at how long it’s taking her with a sarcastic comment. Since sarcasm is a little tough to read in a text, follow it up with some laughter or an emoji so she understands you’re only joking.^{[2]
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- “Wow, just when I thought I was a slow texter, you came along 😜”
- “It’s not a race! You can take your time hahaha.”

5

“Were you abducted by aliens?”

Saying something exaggerated lets her know you’re only joking. If you mention an insane hypothetical situation, you’re probably going to make her laugh and get her attention back. When your text sounds unbelievable, she’ll get that you’re just having fun.^{[3]
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- “FYI I just finished reading all the Harry Potter books since my last text 😂”
- “Julie always texts back, so who are you and what did you do with the real Julie?”

6

“Goodnight sleepyhead 😉”

You won’t make her feel bad if you just assume she fell asleep. If you’re texting late at night, you can’t be sure if she left you on read or just went to bed. Sending a goodnight text also sounds sweet and caring, plus your message won’t read like you’re upset at her for not texting you back. You can always pick up your conversation right where you left off once you both wake up.
- “Aw someone couldn’t stay up 🤣I better hear from you in the morning!”
- “I get it, sleep is more important than me 😜”

7

“I promise I won’t bite 😉”

Give off a fun and flirty vibe to make her feel more comfortable. If you just started chatting, there’s a chance she’s a little nervous chatting with you. Reassure her that you’re excited to talk with her and that she has nothing to worry about. Add an emoji to your message so she doesn’t think you’re being too aggressive.
- “I’m not that scary to talk to, am I? 😂”
- “Do you believe in second chances? Because I’m using mine right now with this message haha.”

8

“I’ll just tell someone else then 😜”

Make her curious by playing a little hard to get. Even if you’re really excited to talk to the girl, make it sound like you’re keeping a secret from her. Since she’ll probably be more interested and want to know what you’re hiding from her, she’ll try to text you again to ask about it.
- “Wow, I had a craaazy story for you, but I guess you don’t want to know 😉”
- “I’m surprised you don’t want to hear the details because they’re really juicy.”

9

Send a silly GIF or meme.

If you aren’t sure what to say, a GIF or meme can make her laugh. You can find a ton of relatable memes and GIFs about someone not responding online. If you want to go for something simple, you might send a GIF of someone staring at the clock or obsessively checking their phone to get your point across.
- You could send a GIF of someone falling asleep and say something like, “This is going to be me if you keep me waiting 😂”

10

Keep your messages lighthearted.

You could accidentally offend her if your texts come across as pushy. Teasing can be pretty tough to read over text, so it might make a girl upset if you push it too far. Rather than acting passive-aggressive or upset that she hasn’t replied yet, stay kind and only make jokey responses. Add emojis or write “haha,” “LOL,” or “lmao” to show that you’re laughing and still having fun.^{[4]
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Move on if the girl still doesn’t seem interested.

Replying with short texts (or not replying at all) might mean she’s moved on. Pay attention to how much effort she’s putting into her responses and if she seems excited to chat with you.^{[5]
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Imad Jbara
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Expert Interview. 22 September 2021.} If she’s not responding or only sending you one-word replies, it might mean that she's not super interested in chatting.^{[6]
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- It’s a bummer when the girl you like doesn’t want to chat as much, but there are plenty of other people that you can still text with!