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When you have a soul tie with someone, you feel an intense emotional connection with that person. It might feel like they've always been a part of you, like you've always known them. This sort of connection might sound like a dream come true! But that level of intensity also has a dark side. Read on to learn everything you need to know about the dangers of soul ties, including how to break unhealthy soul ties that are messing up your life.
Things You Should Know
- A soul tie is a powerful, inexplicable emotional connection with someone else.
- A soul tie with a toxic or abusive person can be extremely damaging to your mental health.
- To break a soul tie, remove all signs of the other person from your life. Then, use meditation, visualization, and ritual to remove the tie.
- Practice forgiveness for yourself and the other person to fully release the connection. Seek professional support for strong ties.
Steps
Breaking a Toxic or Ungodly Soul Tie
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1Acknowledge that the soul tie exists. Having an unhealthy soul tie is similar to an addiction and, in many ways, the process of breaking an unhealthy soul tie is similar to overcoming an addiction. Start by recognizing how the soul tie has negatively impacted your life.[11]
- This can require a lot of self-reflection. Sometimes it can be painful to admit how the soul tie is affecting you and your life—but it'll be worth it once you're free of the soul tie for good.
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2Remove all signs of the person from your life. If you have anything that belongs to the person, or anything they gave you, get rid of it—even if you like it. You don't want to own anything that reminds you of them. Throw away or donate everything you can that reminds you of them.[12]
- This includes pictures you have of them or the two of you. Don't just destroy any physical copies, but delete the digital images as well.
- Block them on social media so you can't see or interact with them. You might want to take a break from social media for a while if you feel like you'd be too tempted to unblock them and take a peek.
- Make sure you also block their phone number so you won't be tempted to reach out to them.
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3Try meditation or visualization to break the tie. Do a breathing exercise to focus your mind, then draw your attention to a mental image of a string or cord. Visualize that string or cord breaking while you tell yourself that you're breaking the soul tie between you and the other person.[13]
- Repeat the visualization whenever you think about the other person or feel a pull towards them. Eventually, you'll be able to quickly and easily put them out of your mind.
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4Perform a breaking ritual to physically symbolize severing the soul tie. Get a string or cord that represents the tie between you and the other person, then tie either end around the wick of each candle. Light the candles and let them burn down until they burn through the string, symbolizing that the tie is broken.[14]
- If you're not allowed to burn candles where you live or you just don't like the idea of an open flame, just use scissors instead. Choose any two objects to represent yourself and the other person and tie them together with a piece of string. Say a few words of your choosing, then cut the string.
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5Call on your higher power to help break the soul tie. If you're a religious person, harness the power of prayer to free you from an unhealthy soul tie. Your higher power will guide you down the right path, away from harmful and negative influences in your life.[15]
- Incorporate a daily prayer into your routine to help you build strength and confidence. Start with something like, "Dear God, give me the strength to overcome this harmful soul tie and heal from the pain."
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6Get help from a professional with experience breaking soul ties. If you're a religious or spiritual person, you might seek help from a religious leader or spiritual guide. Or, talk to a therapist who can help you break your bond with the person.[16]
- Therapists can also give you tasks that help build your confidence and self-esteem after an experience with an unhealthy soul tie.
- Because a soul tie is energy, professionals known as "energy workers" can also help you break the soul tie.
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7Practice forgiveness to begin the healing process. One of the hardest parts of breaking a soul tie is forgiving the other person and forgiving yourself. It might take you a long time to actually forgive, but once you do, you open up the path to fully healing from the experience.[17]
- As long as you don't forgive the other person or yourself, there's still a part of the soul tie clinging to you that won't let go. Forgiveness will release you from the other person forever.
Warnings
- If you're currently in an abusive relationship, focus on safely leaving that relationship and protect yourself from that person before you worry about breaking the soul tie.[18]⧼thumbs_response⧽
References
- ↑ https://www.utilitarian.net/soul-ties/
- ↑ https://liveboldandbloom.com/04/relationships/break-soul-tie
- ↑ https://www.yahoo.com/video/lets-talk-soul-ties-spiritual-171111595.html
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/codependency
- ↑ https://teaandrosemary.com/how-to-break-a-soul-tie-symptoms/
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/what-are-soul-ties/
- ↑ https://www.iamfc.us/static/sitefiles/Wrong_Soul_Ties.pdf
- ↑ https://www.utilitarian.net/soul-ties/
- ↑ https://handofjesus.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/HOJM-SoulTies-eBook.pdf
- ↑ https://handofjesus.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/HOJM-SoulTies-eBook.pdf
- ↑ https://liveboldandbloom.com/04/relationships/break-soul-tie
- ↑ https://liveboldandbloom.com/04/relationships/break-soul-tie
- ↑ https://teaandrosemary.com/how-to-break-a-soul-tie-symptoms/
- ↑ https://teaandrosemary.com/how-to-break-a-soul-tie-symptoms/
- ↑ https://www.utilitarian.net/soul-ties/
- ↑ https://teaandrosemary.com/how-to-break-a-soul-tie-symptoms/
- ↑ https://www.utilitarian.net/soul-ties/
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