How to Be Sexy (Skinny Guys)

Co-authored by Tavia Sharp and Hunter Rising

Last Updated: June 27, 2022 References

If you're skinny, you may think you need to be more muscular in order to attract a partner, but you can look and feel sexy no matter what body shape you have. Staying confident about your body and personality will help you feel sexier as well as appear more attractive to others. As long as you dress in flattering clothes, act confident, and be yourself, you can be sexy and skinny all in one!

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Finding a Style That Fits You Well

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Wear slim-fit jeans. Avoid purchasing skinny jeans that are too tight or else they could accentuate how skinny your legs are. Pants that are too baggy will also make you look smaller. Try on pants that fit tight but have a little bit of bagginess to them so you’re still comfortable.^{[1]
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- Wear pants in a variety of colors that you feel confident about.
- A pair of dark denim jeans can be a great part of a classy outfit.
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Get shirts that fit well in the shoulders and chest. Make sure your shirts fit snug across your chest so they accentuate your body. Look for shirts labeled “slim fit” so they don’t hang loosely on your body or look baggy. These shirts will help bring out your upper body and flatter your form.^{[2]
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- Invest in a few henley shirts. They fit tight and help accentuate the male body.
- Try to find brands and stores that carry clothing that fits your body type—just remember that not all brands are created equal!
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Find a casual blazer to wear. Blazers help emphasize your shoulders and give you a boxier form. Find one that doesn’t feel too tight when you cross your arms. Casual blazers can be worn with just a T-shirt underneath, or you can wear them on top of a button-up shirt for a fancier look. Blazers can help you look professional and stylish.^{[3]
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- Look for light grey or tan colored blazers for a clean, casual look.
- Make sure that your clothes fit well! Well-fitting clothing helps you look really put together and classy.
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Wear multiple layers if you want to bulk up. Start with a light undershirt, then put on a button-up shirt. Avoid shirts with double front pockets, since these could look bulky and be uncomfortable. After the buttoned shirt, put a light sweater or cardigan on over it.^{[4]
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- If you can, put a jacket or blazer over the sweater for an added layer.
- Wearing layers of clothes gives your body depth and makes you more fashionable.
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Get a pair of shoes that come up to your ankle. Invest in ankle boots so they bunch up the cuffs of your pants when you wear them. This adds to the illusion that your legs are a little bulkier and makes a unique fashion statement more eye-catching than tennis shoes.^{[5]
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Being Confident

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Embrace your body type. Be happy with your body image to make yourself more confident. Accepting how you look will make you happier and more secure. You may be your own worst critic when it comes to how you look, so surround yourself with encouraging people to help you build your own self-confidence. Being comfortable in your own skin will make you more attractive to others.^{[6]
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- Not only will confidence in your body image make you happier about your body, but it can improve your emotions and health.
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Practice good posture. Keep your head up, shoulders back, and spine straight. Relax your other muscles and take deep slow breaths. If you sit up and walk straight, you’ll feel and appear more attractive.^{[7]
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- To help with your posture, imagine a string pulling straight from the base of your spine to the crown of your head.
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Walk with a purpose. Increase the length of your normal stride by 6 to 8 inches (15 to 20 cm) and move confidently. When you give purpose and speed to your walk, you’ll look busier and have a sense of more power and control. When you walk with purpose, people will notice the confidence and find you attractive.^{[8]
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- Make sure you maintain good posture as you walk.
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Avoid crossing your arms or legs. Keep your arms at your side when you’re speaking with someone so it seems that you are open. Crossing your arms or legs will make it seem like you are closed off and not accepting. Keeping an open posture will help others know you care about how they feel and they will be more confident in developing relationships with you.^{[9]
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- If you have your arms at your side, it shows you have nothing to fear and you’re more approachable.
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Maintain eye contact when you talk to someone. If someone is looking at you while they speak, hold eye contact with them until they look away. This will help you and the other person feel more comfortable with one another and shows you care. If you want to show more interest in the person, continue to look at their face even if they look away.^{[10]
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- Don’t make it a staring contest. Too much eye contact could be unnerving.
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Smile more. Whenever you feel positive and upbeat, try to maintain a smile. This can show you’re confident and happy during everyday situations. Even if you’re in a negative mindset, cracking a smile can help increase your mood. Happiness and confidence will make you sexier when others notice your smile.^{[11]
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- When you find yourself frowning, try to change into a smile right away. This can help you have more positive feelings and stop negative thoughts.
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Practice personal hygiene to feel more confident around others. Make sure to brush your teeth at least twice a day and always wear deodorant. Take some extra time in the morning to wash your face, trim any facial hair, and pluck eyebrows or nose hairs. These are small things that you may have grown used to, but many people may notice.^{[12]
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- Wear a light cologne so the smell isn’t too overwhelming.
- Carry lip balm with you to help alleviate dry and cracked lips.
- Consider carrying gum or breath mints throughout the day in case you have bad breath.

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Developing Your Personality

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Be true to yourself. Be honest with how you feel, what you value, and what you desire. You don’t need to change yourself to appear sexy to other people. If you are honest and genuine in your relationships, people will find you sexy for who you are.^{[13]
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- Make a list of the things you value and love about yourself. It will make you more confident and happier with yourself.
- Practice meditation or yoga to help you be introspective and develop self-awareness.
- Don’t let other people define who you are. Be happy with who you are as a person and stick to what’s important to you.
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Explore your hobbies. Continue being passionate about the things you love to do. If you like reading, keep going to bookstores, author talks, and libraries to pursue your interests. Showing that you’re passionate about something will make people be more attracted to you.^{[14]
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- Make time in your schedule to do your hobbies. If you find yourself losing time, consider writing a to-do list for your hobbies.
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Use your manners. Make sure to say please and thank you in daily conversation. Hold the door open for people when they are entering or exiting behind you. When you’re courteous, others will take notice and be more attracted to you because of the politeness and respect you’re giving them.^{[15]
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- Try using proper table etiquette to be respectful while you eat.
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Take interest in other people. Be respectful when people are talking to you by giving them your full attention. Put your phone away and ask inquisitive, open-ended questions to learn more about them. When you show interest in others, they’ll start showing interest in you as well.^{[16]
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- Use their name in conversation so they know you really do care about what they say.
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Keep a lighthearted sense of humor. Don’t take everything too seriously or else you could shut people out of your life. Instead, take a moment to laugh about the little things or even the things that stress you out. This can help you manage your time and emotions better. Humor lets others know you appreciate the funny things in life and is an important element of a relationship.^{[17]
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- Don’t make jokes at other people's expense. This could affect relationships.