How to Change Your Reputation when You Are a Teen

Last Updated: February 27, 2023 References

Reputation is how other people view you and can be based on things you have (or haven’t done), gossip, and how you present yourself in person and online. Your reputation may be good, bad, or somewhere in between, but you might not be happy with the image that you feel you project. The good thing is, your reputation is not permanent and with time and a plan, you can change how people view you.

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Planning Your New Reputation

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Come up with a detailed list of qualities you'd like to have. Write a description of the new you. If you want to, create a vision board or drawing depicting the person you want to be.
- Be detailed and specific. Instead of using vague terms like "fun" or "intelligent", use more descriptive and exact terms like "puts people at ease" or "knows a lot about Latin".
- While it can be useful to add "a neat, polished appearance" or something similar, don't focus only on physical and material things.
- Include descriptions of things the ideal you would do, places you would go, etc.
- Consider what your cyber reputation would look like as well. What types of sites, posts, comments, etc. are in line with the reputation you want to have?
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Make a realistic, detailed and specific plan to change your reputation.^{[1]
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- Think about what actions/tasks you will need to do. How will you need to change your attitude, your activities, and/or your appearance? How will you need to act and dress? Where will you need to go? What will you need to do?
- Make sure your changes are things that you have the ability, time and money to achieve. Think about what financial, material, and human resources you have to support you in making your changes. Think about what resources you will need, as well as, if and how you can get them.
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Plan to strengthen your current positive friendships. Your changes don't mean you have to stop being friends with anyone.
- Share your plan with people you trust. Some people might make fun of you or not believe you, so carefully choose who you share your plan with. Make sure it is with people that truly care about you.
- Surround yourself with people that support your new reputation. Try to avoid people that only want to bring up your old reputation or who just don't fit with the person you are trying to be now.
- Talk to your friends and socialize with them on a regular basis. They might be able to offer other tips and suggestions that help your new reputation, like people to meet or places to go.
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Plan to seek out and make new friends. Be open to meeting and getting to know new people.
- Look for opportunities at school, social events, and other places to meet people.
- Join positive social groups (in-person and online) that are in line with the reputation you are developing.
- Create a group or club if one doesn't exist for your current interests.
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Plan to update your appearance. This doesn’t mean you have to buy a new wardrobe, it just means paying attention to how you look and making sure you are presenting the best you.
- Present yourself in a way that makes you feel good about how you look.
- Present yourself in a way that reflects how you want people to view you.
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Separate your reputation from your self-image. Understand that your reputation is not always an accurate reflection of the real you. It is how people view you, and people can be wrong.
- Ask yourself if your reputation truly represents who you are as a person.
- Make sure that you don’t let the negative things people think about you turn into negative things you believe about yourself.^{[3]
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- Always remember that you are a great person that deserves to be treated with respect, no matter what your reputation is.
- You may find that there are parts of your reputation that you don’t want to or need to change.
- If you want to change your reputation in order to impress someone or just to fit in, maybe you don’t need to change your reputation, maybe you need to change your friends.

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Starting to Change

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Start implementing your plan to change your reputation. Now that you know why you are changing, what you are changing, and how you are going to do it, you can take action. Use your plan to help you know what to wear, do, say, where to go, etc.^{[4]
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Own up to what you have done in the past. If you have a bad reputation based on something you did, then be honest about what happened, apologize sincerely and show people that you really are sorry and really have changed.
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Be consistent. Make a concerted effort every day, in every situation, and everything you say, do, and post to reflect the person you are becoming.^{[5]
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- Make sure your outward appearance matches the other changes you are making to your reputation. Talk, walk, and look like the reputation you are building.^{[6]
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- Present yourself with confidence. When gossip or negative people come around, don’t let it upset you. When possible, ignore it and be confident knowing that you are changing yourself in positive ways.
- Make sure the people you socialize with fit the real you and the reputation you are building.^{[7]
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- Make sure your cyber personality reflects the changes you are making.
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Align your activities with your new reputation. Do things, go places and post things that represent the person you are becoming.^{[8]
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- Attend school and social events, meetings, community classes, meet-ups, etc. that support your new reputation.
- You may have to step outside your comfort zone a bit, but, when you can, volunteer or find a way to participate in activities that build your reputation.
- Join positive online groups and forums related to your developing reputation.
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Ask for support from people you trust. It always helps to have someone encouraging you and lending a hand when things get rough or just to remind of the great person you are becoming.
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Be patient. Unfortunately, although they can be destroyed in a moment, good reputations take time to build and rebuild. At first people may not see or even believe that you are changing. Remember that change takes time, but know that as long as you work at it consistently, people will begin to see the new you. ^{[9]
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Expert Q&A

Question

Can you rebuild your reputation?

Desiree Panlilio
Teen Life Coach
Desiree Panlilio is a Teen Life Coach and the Owner of Encouraging Teens, LLC. With over three years of experience, she specializes in helping teens and young adults define roles, set goals, develop healthy academic and personal habits, grow in leadership potential, and create their life paths. Desiree holds a BSN in Nursing from The University of Victoria and an MA in Human Services Counseling with a concentration in Life Coaching from Liberty University.

Desiree Panlilio

Teen Life Coach

Expert Answer

Absolutely! That's one of the best parts about being a teen—everyone's changing. After a long summer break without seeing your peers, you have a new opportunity to change how your classmates view and perceive you.
Question

How can I improve myself as a teenager?

Desiree Panlilio
Teen Life Coach
Desiree Panlilio is a Teen Life Coach and the Owner of Encouraging Teens, LLC. With over three years of experience, she specializes in helping teens and young adults define roles, set goals, develop healthy academic and personal habits, grow in leadership potential, and create their life paths. Desiree holds a BSN in Nursing from The University of Victoria and an MA in Human Services Counseling with a concentration in Life Coaching from Liberty University.

Desiree Panlilio

Teen Life Coach

Expert Answer

Take advantage of every learning opportunity! For example, if a teacher tells you that something you said was rude, take some time to reflect and learn from the incident.

Warnings

If someone is rude or nasty to you, try not to worry about it; unfortunately, it is a part of life. There will always be someone who just is not nice, and nobody is going to be liked by everyone.

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Never let anyone tell you who you are. It is your decision and a work in progress.

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There is a difference between someone being rude and someone bullying you. If a person’s rude or nasty behavior makes you feel threatened (at school, online, or anywhere else), talk to a trusted teacher, administrator or your parents.

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