How to Email Your Mom Asking for Something

Last Updated: February 12, 2023

When you want something, email is a good option because you can use clear reasons and not be cut off. Parents appreciate it, too, because it's easy for them to understand without feeling the need to yell at you all the things that are unreasonable. Here's how to write a good email.

Steps

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Think about the reasons you want the thing you want. Make sure they're not all "It's fun" and "All of my friends have it". Make some reasons like those, to make it believable, but also think of reasons your mom might approve of.
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Practice your email. It's kind of like writing a rough draft, except you may send this email. Just don't put your mom's email into the "To" box yet, in case you accidentally click "send."

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Reread the email. Make sure it's 100% grammatically correct, its paragraphs are divided correctly, and it's easy to understand. Delete parts that make you sound selfish or expecting.
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Sign it with something affectionate. Don't put "Sincerely, Amy Smith," put "Love, Amy and Fido (your pet)," or "Love, AmyMonkey (your nickname)."
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Don't write a subject. You don't want your email to be characterized by anything, and you don't want your mom to already have an opinion about your email before she's read it.
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Wait for an email reply, but don't say anything to your mom. She may not say anything about it to your face, and instead email back, so don't get in a talk before you know what's going on. She'll respond with clear, understandable words, so give her the chance.
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Accept her answer. If she says no, don't reply with a "I didn't think you'd do it anyway. **** you, Mom." Be calm, and thank her for her listening to you. Since you were polite in the email, you don't want her to think that was just an act. If she says yes, sincerely thank her heavily. Don't act expecting or entitled, because it was generous of her to give in.

Community Q&A

Question

What is the best way to write a "thank you" email, whether or not my mom says yes?

Minty Wolf

Community Answer

Just say "thank you for listening to my thoughts and considering my feelings." Maybe she'll change her mind if she knows you're polite and deserve what you asked for.
Question

My birthday is coming up and I really want a phone. But my mom says I have to do chores and earn responsibilities but I hate doing chores. Should I forget or confront her and talk to her about it?

Minty Wolf

Community Answer

Just do the chore! Think about the phone. If you really want it, you'll do the chores you need to do to get it! Then, even though you worked your butt off, you can walk away with a brand-new phone!
Question

I want to send that type of message like Whatsapp, so how can I send her short message?

Mollie Snyder

Community Answer

Here is an example: Hi mom! I just wanted to let you know I am grateful for everything you do but I wanted to ask you something. Can you buy me a(n) ___________? No matter what you decide I will still love you.

Warnings

Don't do this for everything. If you email your mom asking for something every day, it will stop seeming like an important thing, and she might even begin to ignore your emails if she doesn't agree with any of them.

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Take no for an answer. If you realize she said no, don't run to her and start yelling. If you do, she'll think you just expected her to say yes, and she'll be less likely to give you stuff in the future (thinking you expect her to give you everything you want).

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