How to Give Up on Girls

Co-authored by Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW

Last Updated: January 31, 2023 References

If you’re finding it difficult out there in the dating world, or you’re going through a lot emotionally, romantically, or spiritually, you feel like you need a break from girls—at least for a while. Relationships are good for you, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with taking a break to give up on girls for the time being, and it’s not like being single doesn’t have its benefits, too!^{[1]
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Research source} If you want help on how to take a break from women without feeling like you’re making a mistake, we’re here to help.

Method 1

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Getting Out Gracefully

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Act with positivity. It does no one any good if you act out against girls because you’re angry at all women, or blame them for your problems. You are the person in charge of your life, and you have to own that. No one is responsible for your actions but you- and this can be a freeing thought, because if you decide the ladies aren’t for you, it’s entirely your choice.
- No one can tell you that you’re wrong.
- Be kind and gentlemanly to women, even if you’ve decided that dating isn’t for you at the moment.
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Remove yourself from “The Game”. Making the choice to get away from girls, even for a while, has a certain gravity, and you may find that you gain a certain monastic clarity by giving up on the ladies. If you decide you’re fed up with the dating game, quit playing it. Making a clean break will help you gain perspective and give you a new and refreshing outlook on life.
- It may be difficult, but when you find yourself getting hung up on those same negative thoughts about girls or a girl, remind yourself that it’s just not worth it.
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Forgive wrongdoing against you. You’ll get nowhere by holding grudges, even if a girl left you for someone else, or you feel that you were led on, or had your heart stomped on. When you hold on to anger, it does no one any good, especially not you. Decide that you’ll be single for positive reasons, not negative ones. Focus on the positive aspects of being single, rather than the negative experiences you may have had with girls.
- Give it time. When you experience heartbreak, the only thing that can really make it better is time. ^{[2]
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Method 2

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Moving on

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Embrace singlehood. Nowadays, being single can have distinct advantages. Whether it’s the extra time, the general freedom of movement, or simply getting to spend all your free time exactly the way you want, making the choice to disassociate yourself from romantic attachment can benefit you in the modern century in ways it might not have in past times. ^{[3]
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Live life for you. One of the major advantages of singlehood is the sheer freedom to focus on yourself. Do what you want, when you want. Now you don’t have to be beholden to a significant other! When you give up on girls, you open the door to have a self- gratifying existence.
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Stress less. As a single person, you are less likely to stress about chores and money. ^{[4]
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Get over the stigma. There has always been a stigmatized, stereotypical idea that single people are lonely and vulnerable. However, today more than ever, it simply isn’t true! More and more people in the modern world are finding the benefits of singlehood, and society is embracing that.
- Singles are now a majority in the U.S. Just over fifty percent of Americans are now single. ^{[5]
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Become a member of clergy. If you become a priest, a nun, or enter into other monastic orders, the decision to give up on girls is already made for you! If you join an order for which celibacy is a prerequisite, you won’t have to worry about struggling with your decision, and you have the support of all your fellow celibates. ^{[6]
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Method 3

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Living Life Without Girls

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Focus on other things. When you make the decision to do without the ladies, you have an opportunity to focus your energies on other activities and interests. Without having to juggle romance, personal time, and work, you’ll find that you’ll have a lot more time to focus your energies on self-advancement.
- Singlehood can be great for your career. ^{[7]
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- When you are single, you can spend much more time being creative and exploring your passions.
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Enjoy yourself. Now that you have overcome the heartbreak, and made a clean break from the romantic sphere, you will have found you have more free time on your hands for activities that you have always wanted to pursue. Did your girlfriend never want to go camping? Did she prefer to stay home and cook dinner rather than go to that restaurant you had been wanting to try? When you give up on girls, you can pursue all the activities that girls held you back from.
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Get in shape. Being single can have distinct advantages for your health. Single people are less likely to gain weight ^{[8]
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- Join a gym.
- Spend the time in the evening that used to be consumed with romance to jog, swim, or work out.
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Have better friendships. When you have no need for a girlfriend, you have more opportunity to spend time with friends (even if they are girls). When you get the guys together, you won’t need to worry about getting home for dinner if you don’t want to. You’ll also have more of your income available to spend on things that you want to do, rather than having to compromise with your girlfriend.
- As a single person, you are more likely to have close friends, and to keep in close contact with your siblings. ^{[9]
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- Not having a romantic life means you have plenty of time for having fun and bonding with your platonic relationships- and this can fulfill the same needs as a love interest. ^{[10]
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Look forward to future possibilities. Giving up on girls doesn’t have to mean that you’re done with love and romance forever. It can be a rewarding time of self-reflection and enjoying your personal space and freedom. You can also use the opportunity to watch other couples and learn from their mistakes. Being on the outside looking, even for a while, in can have distinct learning advantages- and if you do decide to get back into meeting girls and dating, you’ll be better prepared to deal with all that you wanted to get away from.
- When you take on the journey of abstaining from a romantic love, you have an opportunity to enter into a realm of possibility, adventure, and sheer fun- a realm of focusing on what’s best for you.
- Make the most of it- you never know when that certain someone will stumble into your life, and you’ll find it rather difficult to maintain your vow of giving up on girls.