How to Tell Someone You Love Them over Text

Co-authored by Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC and Jennifer Mueller, JD

Last Updated: November 5, 2022 References

"I love you." Those 3 simple words mean a lot, but over text sometimes that meaning is lost. If you've ever wondered if there are other ways you can tell someone you love them over text, we here at wikiHow have got you covered! Here, you'll find plenty of ways that you can express your love for someone over text without it getting repetitive or losing meaning.

1

Send a "good morning" text if you wake up before them.

Say something sweet so they can start their day with a smile. There's nothing better than waking up to a text from someone who loves you. This is a relatively easy way to express your love and help your special someone start their day on a warm note.^{[1]
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Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC
Marriage & Family Therapist
Expert Interview. 18 September 2019.} Here are some ideas to get you started:
- "Good morning, sunshine! I hope your day is as beautiful as you. 😘 "
- "You were my first thought when I woke up this morning. Hope you slept well!"
- "Every morning I wake up smiling. I think it's your fault. 🥰 "

2

Ask them to text you when they arrive.

If they're traveling, this text shows you care about their safety. When your special someone is on the road (or in the air), you're probably a little anxious until you know they've arrived safe and sound. They'll know you love them if you're concerned about their wellbeing. Here are some texts you might use:
- "Be safe on your way home!"
- "Text me to let me know you got home safe."
- "Buzz me when you get there so I know you're okay."

3

Share a song that reminds you of them.

It could be something you just heard or a song that has meaning in your relationship. A song is the perfect way to tell someone that they're on your mind. It could be that the song reminds you of a happy moment in your relationship or simply that it's a love song that reminds you of how you feel about them.^{[2]
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Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC
Marriage & Family Therapist
Expert Interview. 18 September 2019.}
- You might mention the memory the song is attached to: "Remember that night we got up and danced in that restaurant? This was the song that was playing!"
- You could also point out a particular lyric or part of the song that you like the most, such as, "Listen carefully to the second verse—that's exactly how I feel about you."
- If you have a little time, you might even make a whole playlist for them and send a link via text.

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Give them a special compliment.

Try something different that highlights their uniqueness. When you compliment someone, you give them the opportunity to see themselves through your eyes. Think about what you love the most about your special person, then send them a text telling them about it.^{[3]
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Research source} Here are some ideas:
- "That blue sweater you were wearing this morning made your eyes sparkle."
- "Did you know you have exactly 14 freckles on your nose? And I love every single one of them."
- "Your voice is my favorite sound."

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Drop a GIF or meme that reminds you of them.

A cute or funny image lets them know you're thinking of them. When you share something you've seen, it shows them that they're always at the forefront of your mind. If you don't think your reason for sending will be clear, add a short explanation, such as "I saw this and instantly thought of you."^{[4]
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John Keegan
Dating Coach
Expert Interview. 18 November 2019.}
- You might also send articles you run across online related to recent conversations you've had. For example, if they mentioned wanting to go to Prague, you might send them an article of the best restaurants in the city.
- Webcomics are easily shareable as well. Check out Milk & Mocha, an adorable webcomic about two bears who are in love. The Catana Comics series also explores love and relationships.

6

Tell the person how happy you are with them.

Brighten their day by telling them how much they brighten yours. Being in love doesn't always have to be so serious. Sometimes, it's enough that you enjoy someone's company and you feel better with them in your life. Sharing your happiness with them opens you up to love.^{[5]
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Cher Gopman
Relationship Coach
Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.} Here are some things you might say:
- "Every time my phone buzzes I get a stupid smile on my face because I think it's you."
- "Whenever I think about you I can't help but smile. I smile a lot."
- "With you in my life the world is beautiful and everything seems possible."
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Cher Gopman
Dating Coach
Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.

Cher Gopman
Dating Coach

If you're feeling nervous about confessing your feelings, remember that it's okay to tell somebody exactly how you feel. In society, we're always scared to tell people how we’re feeling because we're scared to get hurt. But the way to truly fall in love and to be in love is to be vulnerable. Relationships should be built on honesty, trust, and being able to tell a person how you feel.

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Bring up a happy memory the two of you share.

Positive events enhance your connection and show your love. If you randomly recall something fun the two of you did a few weeks or months ago, shoot your partner a text and remind them of it. Going back to that moment in your mind is a great way to relive it and feel the love.^{[6]
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- For example, you might say, "I was just thinking about that trip we took to the beach. Remember the frogs jumping all over the car? 🤣 Man, that was trippy!"
- Maybe you saw something that reminded you of the moment. For example, you might say, "Remember when we went to that ridiculous cowboy restaurant? I just saw an ad for it on Facebook! 😂 We should totally go again!"

8

Confess that you wish you were with them right now.

This works especially well if you're doing something fun. If you're at work or in a boring class, telling someone you'd rather be with them isn't saying much. But send that text when you're actually in the middle of something cool and they'll know you love them. Here are some ideas:
- "That movie was great, but it would've been even better if I was watching it with you."
- "I love hanging out with my friends and this party is awesome. But you know what would be even more awesome? Cuddling up with you and watching some Netflix. 🥰 "
- "I'm glad I came to this show but honestly I'd have more fun just sitting around with you."

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Let them know they introduced you to your new favorite thing.

They'll be overjoyed that they've added something to your life. Did your favorite person also happen to introduce you to your new favorite food or the album you've been playing on repeat for a week straight? Let them know and they'll understand how much you love them.^{[7]
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Research source} Try texts like these:
- "I went to sleep entirely too late last night because I had to finish the second season of that show. Thanks for introducing me to my new obsession."
- "I've listened to nothing but that album you played for me for the last 7 days. I think I love it almost as much as I love you!"
- "Do you want to go get Korean BBQ tonight? I know we just went last night, but what can I say? You've created a monster!"
- "Wanna play Catan tonight? I never could get into that game before I played it with you, but now I'm obsessed. Must be who I'm playing it with. 😉 "

10

Remind them of an inside joke.

You know it's love when it only takes one word to start laughing. Inside jokes are one of the best parts of a relationship. You feel such an intimate connection with each other when you bring up something that only the two of you understand. It's like you're speaking your own language.
- For example, maybe one time your significant other randomly shouted "Lemons!" and this has become a thing between the two of you. If you text them "Lemons!" or even " 🍋 " you're bound to get a laugh.
- Sometimes the impact is even greater if you bring something up that neither of you has mentioned in a while. Remembering things long after they've fallen out of use shows that you're treasuring the moments the two of you have together.

11

Gush over dreams about the future.

Include them in your idealistic visions and they'll swoon. When you daydream, you're picturing the best possible situation for yourself. And how could it be the best if your favorite person wasn't by your side? Use texts like these to let them know that you never want to let them go:
- "I used to worry about getting old, but now I know I have nothing to fear if you're by my side. We'll be the coolest old people around!"
- "I'm so sick of all this snow. What do you say we move to a Caribbean island for the next 20 years?"
- "When we retire, let's travel the world on a search for all the best chocolate!"

12

Let them know you're there for them.

True love means being there for the rough times as well as the happy times. If your partner is going through some challenges, they'll know you really love them if you stick by them and resolve to help them through it. Even if there's nothing you can do to fix the situation, let them know you're there if they need to vent. Here are some things you could say:
- "I feel so awful that you're going through this. If you need someone to talk to, you know I'm here."
- "I hate to see you this upset. I'd do anything to help ease your pain right now."
- "I canceled my plans tonight so I could spend time with you. I'll bring over dinner."

13

Thank them for being a part of your life.

Expressing gratitude for them shows you don't take them for granted. Everyone loves to feel appreciated. Send a seemingly random text letting them know how grateful you are for them and you'll really brighten their day. Here are some ideas you could use:
- "I just wanted to thank you for being a part of my life."
- "I'm so grateful for you—you really make life wonderful."
- "I'm so glad I'm sharing my life journey with you."
- "Thanks for bringing so much color and beauty to my world."

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Shoot them a short video message.

A sweet video lets them see your face and hear your voice. The tone of your voice and the look in your eyes tells them more than just the words you say. It can make them feel more connected to you than if you just sent a basic text.^{[8]
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Connell Barrett
Dating Coach
Expert Interview. 24 September 2019.}
- Video messages are particularly good when the two of you are apart for a longer period of time, such as if one of you had to go out of town for a few days.
- The other great thing about a video message is that they can play it over and over again. You might try saying something encouraging or uplifting so they can play it whenever they're feeling down.
- For example, you might say, "Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you and whatever you're facing, I know you've got this! You're my favorite person and I'm your #1 fan."