With work, kids, and responsibilities, it’s natural for you and your husband’s sex life to take a bit of a hit over time. If you feel like you’re stuck in a rut and you want to get your husband’s eyes watching you again, look no further! We’ve compiled a list of ways you can get your partner’s attention to kickstart a fun, sexy time in the bedroom.

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Put on a revealing new outfit.

  1. Buy something sexy that he won’t be able to ignore. If you want to entice him right away, find a revealing dress or shirt to show off your goods throughout the day. If you want to save your surprise for the bedroom, put on some lingerie or a new pair of underwear. You don’t have to break the bank, but changing up your appearance just slightly can be enough to break the routine and get him to notice you.[3]
    • If you normally dress casually, try putting on a fancy outfit. If formalwear is your go-to look, try putting on something sultry and revealing.
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Tell him how awesome he is.

  1. When you notice he’s doing something well, tell him about it. A lot of times, we get stuck in a routine of only telling our partners when they mess up, which doesn’t leave a lot of room for intimacy. To get your husband thinking about you all day, try calling out something good that he does, and letting him know how much you appreciate him.[11]
    • For instance, if he did more chores than usual that day, you might say, “The house looks so good, honey! Thanks for taking care of all those chores, you really blew it out of the park today.”
    • Or, if he’s had a tough week at work, you could say, “You’re doing so well at work, even with all your extra responsibilities. I know it’s stressful, but you’re doing amazing.”
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Talk with your husband if you need to.

  1. If the lack of sex in your relationship is getting you down, it’s worth talking about. Sit down with your husband and have an empathetic, honest chat about how you’ve been feeling. You don’t need to accuse him of anything (since that could make him feel defensive), but tell him that you’ve noticed you two aren’t having sex as much, and ask him if there’s anything he needs to get him in the mood.[12]
    • You might say something like, “I’ve noticed that we haven’t been having as much sex as we used to lately. I know that we’re both busy, but it would make me feel better if we could both try to make time for physical intimacy.”

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This article was co-authored by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Hannah Madden is a writer, editor, and artist currently living in Portland, Oregon. In 2018, she graduated from Portland State University with a B.S. in Environmental Studies. Hannah enjoys writing articles about conservation, sustainability, and eco-friendly products. When she isn’t writing, you can find Hannah working on hand embroidery projects and listening to music. This article has been viewed 84,395 times.
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