How to Attract a Cancer Woman Sexually

Co-authored by Stina Garbis and Jennifer Mueller, JD

Last Updated: June 10, 2022

If you're hoping to get intimate with a Cancer woman, get ready for one of the most emotionally intense experiences of your life. Her sign is ruled by the Moon, and there's nothing sexier than moonlight, right? Put in the effort to really set the mood and she'll reward you tenfold. Read on to learn everything you need to know to seduce the Cancerian lady of your dreams and make her lust after you.

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Pour on the romance.

A Cancer woman loves traditional romantic trappings. If you're wooing a Moon maiden, there's no romantic gesture too cheesy for her. Show her you know how to speak the language of love and she'll definitely be thinking about other ways to show her appreciation.
- Since her sign is ruled by the Moon, a moonlit walk holds special appeal for her. Even better if it's on the beach or by any body of water.
- Keep things close, personal, and private. She's likely to get overwhelmed by grand gestures or large, public spaces. Since she's a bit shy, she'd definitely feel more comfortable having a candlelit dinner on your balcony at home than at a big fancy restaurant.^{[1]
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Pamper her.

She tends to put others first so pampering is a real treat. Being a real gentleman is also a great way to show how much you care for her and appreciate everything she does.^{[2]
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- Let her know how much you appreciate everything she does for you. Then, tell her that now you want to take care of her for a change. She'll be pleasantly surprised.

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Add a little sentimental touch.

The nostalgic Cancer woman gets really turned on by sentimentality. Reminiscing about sweet moments from the past or turning points in your relationship really gets her in the mood. Recreate your first date or make her a photo collage of your favorite times together to put her in the right frame of mind.^{[3]
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- Mementos you saved work too! Maybe today is the anniversary of your first date. Break out the to-go menu you saved from the restaurant where you ate and she'll be eating out of your hand.

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Create a comfortable environment.

Comfort and seclusion are paramount for the private Cancerian. Your Cancer woman isn't likely to be an "anytime, anywhere" type of lover. She wants to feel comfortable, mentally and physically. Think soft, warm, and inviting—mood lighting, quiet music, blankets and pillows.^{[4]
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- Kick your thermostat up a few degrees so it's slightly warm—you don't want her to catch a chill.
- If you have roommates, choose an evening when they're going to be out. She'll feel more comfortable if she doesn't have to worry about anyone overhearing.

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Suggest a bubble bath for two.

As a water sign, Cancers find baths really sensual. Clean the bathroom ahead of time and place candles around the tub to set the mood. When she's ready, run the bath with plenty of scented oils and bubble bath (maybe even a bath bomb) for the ultimate in luxurious relaxation.
- If there's not enough room in the tub for both of you, don't push it—make it a bath just for her instead. You can get the bedroom ready while she soaks.

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Give her a sensual massage.

A massage is a great way to help her relax and get in the mood. Light some candles, put on some soft music, and break out the softly scented massage oil. Your Cancerian woman will definitely be feeling the love after you devote so much time and energy to her.
- Choose a massage oil in a scent that she loves for a special treat. If you're not sure what her favorites are, try lavender—it's soft and relaxing, two things Cancer women enjoy.

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Take your time.

A Cancer woman isn't interested in a quickie. She doesn't rush a romantic relationship and she's not going to rush the sex either. She wants you to really get to know her well, which you can't do if you race through it. Relax and give her time to open up to you. She'll show you what she enjoys and how she likes to be touched.^{[5]
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- Remove clothing slowly, taking your time to caress and kiss each body part revealed before moving onto the next.
- Talk to her, giving her plenty of compliments and letting her know how you're feeling and what's going through your mind. She'll feel more connected to you.

8

Engage in lots of foreplay.

For her, foreplay might be more important than the act itself. Even if your ultimate goal is penetrative sex, there's no need to press the issue—especially with a Cancer woman. If you do, you're missing out on the best part of sex for her. Before you get down to business, she wants to spend time caressing each other tenderly and discovering all of your little erotic zones.
- Cancerian women tend to be really into oral sex, so you definitely want to make that part of your foreplay journey. Include lots of kissing everywhere as well.

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Pay particular attention to her breasts.

The breasts are a part of the body ruled by Cancer. Because of this, Cancerian women tend to be especially sensitive in this area and she'll love it if you make her breasts your focus. If you add in a little nipple play, you're sure to get her fired up.
- Communicate with her while this is going on. You'll get a good idea of what she likes and what she doesn't.
- Start gentle—she'll let you know if you can be firmer.

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Cuddle after sex.

She typically wants to stay close after being intimate. Sex is an emotional experience for a Cancer woman. She likes laying with you as these emotions roll over her, feeling the intense connection. Don't be surprised if she ends up crying—it's not because you did anything wrong, it's just a release of all those intense emotions she's experiencing.
- Hold her hand or caress her softly and let her know that you're there for her. Tell her how much you enjoyed the experience and how beautiful she is.
- You might also ask if she wants anything. Have small snacks and water nearby so she can have something to eat or drink without you having to leave her.