If you’ve been on a few dates with someone and you just aren’t feeling it, you might be wondering how you can let them know. Sending someone a breakup text is never easy, but there are a few ways you can let them down gently so you don’t hurt their feelings. Keep reading to learn how you can break up with someone over text kindly, without making them feel bad.

This article is based on an interview with our professional matchmaker & dating coach, Patti Novak Williams. Check out the full interview here.

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When is it okay to break up with someone over text?

  1. Break-up texts get a bad rap, but there are legitimate reasons to send one. Here’s when breaking up over text makes sense:
    • If you haven’t made the relationship “official” yet
    • If you’re unable to see them in person soon
    • If you’re worried they won’t listen to you or take the news appropriately
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“I didn’t feel a connection this time around.”

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“You seem super cool, but I see us more as friends.”

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“You and I want different things right now, and I think we should both pursue those!”

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    Should you break up over text?
    Patti Novak Williams
    Patti Novak Williams
    Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach
    Patti Novak Williams is a Professional Matchmaker in Las Vegas, Nevada. With over 20 years of experience, Patti specializes in working with clients one on one to help them find love. She has helped match hundreds of couples, engagements, and marriages. Patti was the star of the critically acclaimed A&E series “Confessions of a Matchmaker.” She has been featured in the New York Times, the New York Daily News, the New York Post, and The Wall Street Journal, and has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, TODAY with Hoda and Kathy Lee, The Rachael Ray Show, CBS’ The Early Show, CNN, The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch, The Nate Berkus Show, and Fox’s The Morning Show With Mike & Juliet. Patti published a book in 2008 with Random House titled “Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love.”
    Patti Novak Williams
    Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    If you’ve been on more than a couple of dates with someone, it’s polite to break up with them in person.
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This article was co-authored by Patti Novak Williams and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Patti Novak Williams is a Professional Matchmaker in Las Vegas, Nevada. With over 20 years of experience, Patti specializes in working with clients one on one to help them find love. She has helped match hundreds of couples, engagements, and marriages. Patti was the star of the critically acclaimed A&E series “Confessions of a Matchmaker.” She has been featured in the New York Times, the New York Daily News, the New York Post, and The Wall Street Journal, and has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, TODAY with Hoda and Kathy Lee, The Rachael Ray Show, CBS’ The Early Show, CNN, The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch, The Nate Berkus Show, and Fox’s The Morning Show With Mike & Juliet. Patti published a book in 2008 with Random House titled “Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love.” This article has been viewed 18,591 times.
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