Are you stuck in an unhealthy relationship with a needy partner? Breaking it off with someone who obsesses over you can seem nerve wracking, but it’s the best thing for you in the long-run. Don't worry—with a few tips and tricks, you can break up with your girlfriend without making a huge scene. We’ve compiled a comprehensive article chock full of advice so you can dump your clingy girlfriend and move on.

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Be honest, but kind.

  1. Tell her why you’re breaking up, but do it in a constructive way. Sure, it might feel good in the moment to tell your girlfriend exactly why you’re dumping her, but it will only make it tougher for her to move on. Instead, be honest about why you want to do this, but phrase it in a kind, loving way.[2]
    • Instead of, “You’re way too clingy, and I can’t handle it,” try something like, “I feel like our love languages are mismatched, and we might be happier with other people.”
    • Instead of, “You texted me 20 times in an hour last week, which was way, way too much,” try, “I can’t dedicate as much time to this relationship as you deserve.”
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Emphasize that it’s better for both of you.

  1. Tell her that she’s going to be happier with someone else, too. If she’s clingy, she’s probably going to be much happier with someone who can match her energy. Try to express that to her, and let her know that you’ll both be better off in the long run.[5]
    • “I know this hurts now, but I think we’ll both be happier with other people.”
    • “I’m not the best partner for you anyway, and you deserve someone who is.”
    • Remind her that this break-up is best for both of you, and will help you both get closer to the person who is actually right for you.[6]
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Ask your friends not to give her updates on you.

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Cher Gopman
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This article was co-authored by Cher Gopman and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post. This article has been viewed 19,079 times.
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